Wow, that is crazy. Actually there are a bunch of studies on how IVF babies are more likely to have issues. I know because I have an IVF son, who BTW is no genius

Sounds like you just need to be blunt with her and tell her to stop.

Anonymous wrote:"You're absolutely right Suzie! I'm going to put Larlo up for adoption today and start over with an IVF baby tomorrow. No need wasting any more time with a slow baby!"

LMBO! Seriously!

Your SIL sounds like a complete idiot. Take the high road and ignore her.

I would just refuse to engage. Who cares what she thinks?

Whenever she brings up how smart her kid is, just agree with her. "Yep, he's a smarty." Very matter of factly. It's not your job to educate her.

Anonymous wrote:I would look at her and say ..."Hmmmm...the process for non-IVF is much better!"

LOL! Love this!

How about "Oh did you use a donor egg?"

Anonymous wrote: She is an idiot. "The best" egg and sperm indicates cellular health, not intellect. REs don't give IQ tests to the sperm. It squirts into a cup, meets her egg in a dish or similar receptacle, and is transferred into her body. Curious why she thinks a more intelligent offspring would result from what is still a random pairing of cells.

Don't they screen donors and accept only from donors who fit certain profiles like age, race, physical attributes, IQ and profession? Maybe she got it from that.

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Anonymous wrote:I would look at her and say ..."Hmmmm...the process for non-IVF is much better!"

+1 Too funny!

I would be seriously ticked off and might sink to a low level and say something about her infertility.

Take the high road and do not do this.

Anonymous wrote: She is an idiot. "The best" egg and sperm indicates cellular health, not intellect. REs don't give IQ tests to the sperm. It squirts into a cup, meets her egg in a dish or similar receptacle, and is transferred into her body. Curious why she thinks a more intelligent offspring would result from what is still a random pairing of cells.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I would look at her and say ..."Hmmmm...the process for non-IVF is much better!"

+1 Too funny!

I would be seriously ticked off and might sink to a low level and say something about her infertility.

Anonymous wrote:She sounds insecure about having had to do IVF to conceive and is trying to make herself feel better about it.

I would just say, "Yes, I've heard you say that many times. It must be important to you." And then change the subject.

Agree that she's insecure. But why not just calmly call her out on it, OP? "Larla, you keep bringing this up over and over. It's not normal, and it makes it clear that something's bothering you about the IVF process. Would you like to talk about what's bothering you?" From now on, try to come at it from a place of sympathy. Maybe her kid is smarter than yours, maybe she isn't. But your SIL seems to be trying to claim some kind of ownership and control over her reproductive process and the genetic cast of the dice. Hopefully she'll grow out of it. If she doesn't stop with the comments, then just completely stop reacting or responding to them. Not even monosyllabic responses. Just change the subject and act like she never said anything.

She sounds insecure about having had to do IVF to conceive and is trying to make herself feel better about it.

I would just say, "Yes, I've heard you say that many times. It must be important to you." And then change the subject.

She is an idiot. "The best" egg and sperm indicates cellular health, not intellect. REs don't give IQ tests to the sperm. It squirts into a cup, meets her egg in a dish or similar receptacle, and is transferred into her body. Curious why she thinks a more intelligent offspring would result from what is still a random pairing of cells.

Anonymous wrote:"You're absolutely right Suzie! I'm going to put Larlo up for adoption today and start over with an IVF baby tomorrow. No need wasting any more time with a slow baby!"

I love this! Perfect response!

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the poor kids genetic baseline for intelligence is pretty low. I agree with the blank stare and change the subject.

Seriously.

We have an IVF baby and it would have never even occurred to me that someone would think something this idiotic.

Your SIL sounds mentally unstable.

She sounds insecure or ignorant.