^I'll add that your "husband material" comments along with this crap about his chosen profession are a bit off putting. You sound a little insufferable Op.

It doesn't sound as though you and this guy "click" on an emotional, mental, personality level. The lack of depth in this relationship is more reminiscent of a whirlwind fling - based more on animal attraction than compatibility. Flings tend to be short lived because after a while you realize that you aren't all that compatible and after a while you don't desire them as much, the novelty is over and it just sort of peters out. But you've managed to make this (what sounds like) very superficial arrangement last AND you still find this guy (who you don't really seem to respect) hot. If you are both cool with the shallowness of it all...then I suppose that's what matters.

My take: even in the most superficial situations I have been in, people want to talk. And talking combined with sex leads to feelings. These situations don't end well if they continue.

I think you just need to be clear with your intentions. He may feel the same about you.

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Anonymous wrote:Please you are a 42 year old women, you are pretty close to being done with sex. So have fun, but save a little sex to trap the guy with who has money and can afford you. You maybe have 2-4 years of fun, 2-3 years to marry the boring bad sex professional type(you sex drive will just stop around this time).

This is one of the stupidest posts I've read in my 8 years of DCUM use.

I know, right? Everyone knows it's the marriage and not the age that kills the woman's sex drive.

42 being done? She is just getting started. If he is aware there is no future then its fine.

Anonymous wrote:Please you are a 42 year old women, you are pretty close to being done with sex. So have fun, but save a little sex to trap the guy with who has money and can afford you. You maybe have 2-4 years of fun, 2-3 years to marry the boring bad sex professional type(you sex drive will just stop around this time).

This is one of the stupidest posts I've read in my 8 years of DCUM use.

Anonymous wrote:You are too old...

Yep

Please you are a 42 year old women, you are pretty close to being done with sex. So have fun, but save a little sex to trap the guy with who has money and can afford you. You maybe have 2-4 years of fun, 2-3 years to marry the boring bad sex professional type(you sex drive will just stop around this time).

OP, have you ever been married or had a long-term relationship?

Are you chasing men who are unavailable?

As long as you are not giving him the impression that there is a chance for a serious relationship, I don't think its a problem. He probably is fine with you being his cougar fbuddy.

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is always better when you know there is no future.

Haha! You're right. I'd never considered that.

OP, it's not fair for him to think there's a future. He could be out meeting his future wife or LTR partner. Also, you're meeting the wrong 40+ year old men. They're great in bed. I've going them to be more adventurous and giving than their younger counterparts.

It's because you don't have your emotions on the line so you feel more free.

Anonymous wrote:Sex is always better when you know there is no future.

Haha! You're right. I'd never considered that.

OP, it's not fair for him to think there's a future. He could be out meeting his future wife or LTR partner. Also, you're meeting the wrong 40+ year old men. They're great in bed. I've going them to be more adventurous and giving than their younger counterparts.

Sex is always better when you know there is no future.

I don't understand why people care so much about what others will think. Just be with the person who makes you happy. Who cares that he's not a white collar boring dude.