Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's inappropriate. I'm not offended when people say this to me at all. I just say thank you and agree with them.

She may have trust issues or who knows? You just have no idea. Don't sweat it. I think her reaction says more about her than it does about you.

YES!!!!!!

Anonymous wrote:No, there's nothing wrong with what you said, OP. Maybe she's PMSing and took it the wrong way. But in and of itself there's nothing wrong with your compliment.

People have said that to me. I smile and say "Thank you; he's as smart as he is pretty," and then the other person and I always laugh.

Now, that's the right way to respond.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it came off as if you were surprised that someone like her would have a handsome husband.

This. I've received the same comment. Luckily I was quick to respond, "of course he is, look at me."

That's just fucking obnoxious and insecure.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it came off as if you were surprised that someone like her would have a handsome husband.

I said this once to a mother in my daughter's preschool class at some event. She responded, "Why is everyone saying that?"

He was a 9, I'd say. She wasn't.

No, there's nothing wrong with what you said, OP. Maybe she's PMSing and took it the wrong way. But in and of itself there's nothing wrong with your compliment.

People have said that to me. I smile and say "Thank you; he's as smart as he is pretty," and then the other person and I always laugh.

I think you must be talking about my wife. I'll ask her and get back to you.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe because you sounded so surprised?

No big deal. If she's not totally uptight, she'll get over it.

I don't think there is anything wrong with what you said. However, I am someone who tends to say whatever pops into my head. I am slowly (at 48) learning to curb this impulse. What I have learned (finally) is that "whatever pops into my head" also pops into everyone else's head. A lot of those kinds of comments become really annoying to people just because they hear it over and over. I remember telling a good friend that I thought her husband was the smartest person I'd ever come across. He truly is. I still think he's super smart, and nice to boot. But it turned out she was just sick of people telling her how smart her husband is. I don't know if it's because it made her feel "less than", like "wow, how'd you end up with someone so smart?" or what. But sometimes things are just annoying because you've heard them a million times before.

It was a harmless comment. Don't sweat it. Too many sticks up the @ss around here.

Sounds like a creepy thing to say

Anonymous wrote:She sounds unbalanced.

+1. I can't see how anybody would take it as anything but a compliment unless you said it in some super creepy way.

She sounds unbalanced.

Don't feel bad, OP. It should be obvious to anyone that you meant it as a compliment.

Next time you see her, act as if nothing had happened. Be bright and breezy.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's inappropriate. I'm not offended when people say this to me at all. I just say thank you and agree with them.

She may have trust issues or who knows? You just have no idea. Don't sweat it. I think her reaction says more about her than it does about you.

+1 Her reaction is what's weird. Ignore the dorky haters.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it came off as if you were surprised that someone like her would have a handsome husband.

This. I've received the same comment. Luckily I was quick to respond, "of course he is, look at me."