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My husband saved my life when I passed out after losing too much blood after the delivery and by some inexplicable circumstance no one except him was in the room and the nurses were at the far end of the corridor. The call button was not at the head of the bed as it was supposed to be, but hidden away in a drawer.

OP,

In this day and age, it's expected that a father would witness the birth of his children. If he can't handle the blood and moaning, then he shouldn't have copulated and doesn't deserve the babies.

PP, there are many things that a husband can do for their partner when she is giving birth! Psychologically, the very fact that you are there (not passing out) is a symbol of your engagement. If you utter words of encouragement and hold her hand, even better. If you cut the cord, hold your baby, etc even better.

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is a horrible man. You already know this. You drove YOURSELF to the hospital? You are not in this thing together and never have been. You already knew this but he just articulated it for you.

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Anonymous wrote:I was there during labor but had told my wife way ahead of time that I would not be there during delivery.

Frankly, there is little nothing that a husband can do for his wife when she is delivering. I think at least some husbands are there only because there is pressure on them to be present. People are still surprised when I say that I was not present ...... almost as if I committed some sort of major crime.

Why didn't you want to be there? Didn't want to see your wife in pain? The blood/gore?

Probably a combination of those factors. It was something that I did not want to do and fortunately my wife understood it So I was not there for any of our children's birth but was with her through the entire labor.

Like I said we've been married over 20 years. One's marriage and commitment to the marriage is not determined by a husband's presence during delivery. She has never held it against me ...... there are so many more important elements in a relationship than being there when a spouse delivers.

Anonymous wrote:OP, my DH was at the hospital physically but he did not come in for either c-section. He didn't ask me once if I needed anything or if he could rub my feet. Nothing. Spent the first birth in his car texting people. For the second he spent the entire day explaining why he shouldn't have to come in for the birth. Not one time during either birth did it dawn on him that he should be there for ME and not be obsessed with HIMSELF. Soooo yeah I get it. And shame on me for having two kids with this man.

Anonymous wrote:Dad here. Most moving experience of my life. Seeing the first seconds of his life outside the womb was indescribably overwhelming. I've seen a lot of cool things in life, but that was the top.

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Anonymous wrote:I was there during labor but had told my wife way ahead of time that I would not be there during delivery.

Frankly, there is little nothing that a husband can do for his wife when she is delivering. I think at least some husbands are there only because there is pressure on them to be present. People are still surprised when I say that I was not present ...... almost as if I committed some sort of major crime.

Why didn't you want to be there? Didn't want to see your wife in pain? The blood/gore?

Anonymous wrote:I was there during labor but had told my wife way ahead of time that I would not be there during delivery.

Frankly, there is little nothing that a husband can do for his wife when she is delivering. I think at least some husbands are there only because there is pressure on them to be present. People are still surprised when I say that I was not present ...... almost as if I committed some sort of major crime.

Anonymous wrote:He's a pussy?

Anonymous wrote:I figured you'd want to attend the birth of your child, plus the fact the mother can technically die during childbirth. Kinda important, there.