Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:58     Subject: how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
I address my female colleagues as ladies.

Is that sexist?

I am a woman.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:58     Subject: how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate that for some reason, and can't figure out why. I really can't stand the WTOP traffic guy who comes on ABC's morning news - he always tosses it back to the "girls." Come on.


Would you prefer he said 'ladies'?

Do you have the same reaction when they say boys or guys?


Of course I would have the same reaction to a grown man referring to other grown men as boys in a professional setting. But you never see that.
In this context, ANYTHING is better than girls.


On TV - sports channels, they refer to boys (grown men) all the time. What do you think boys? Let's throw this back to the boys on the field.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:51     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:I went to an all-girls school and the teachers all referred to us as ladies or girls as opposed to the so-called gender neutral guys. It made me conscious of the fact that our default gender neutral terminology is, in fact, masculine so I tend to use ladies or girls when referring to a group of women. Not old school. Not condescending.


This, but English is my second language. My English teacher would refer to female students as ladies. So I use it.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:50     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."


Calm down sweetie! It wasn't meant as an insult so stop taking it that way.

LOL. Okay, "sweetie," I'll calm right down, sugarpants.


You are not wearing a bra, are you?


I'll bet she is wearing pants! Imagine that!
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:49     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."


Calm down sweetie! It wasn't meant as an insult so stop taking it that way.

LOL. Okay, "sweetie," I'll calm right down, sugarpants.


You are not wearing a bra, are you?
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:46     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Could be one of those things where it's okay if you're part of the group but off limits if you're not.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:45     Subject: how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
I use the term "ladies" if I'm addressing an email to a large group of ladies (I'm a woman). I don't see what the problem with it is. No one emails to "girls" or "women".
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:43     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."


Calm down sweetie! It wasn't meant as an insult so stop taking it that way.

LOL. Okay, "sweetie," I'll calm right down, sugarpants.


Yeah, we wouldn't want you to get hysterical or make us gossip about you and say you have lady problems.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:41     Subject: how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
I think OP should work on being less touchy. I swear, sometimes reading this site and seeing what "annoys" people makes me totally paranoid.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:39     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."


Calm down sweetie! It wasn't meant as an insult so stop taking it that way.

LOL. Okay, "sweetie," I'll calm right down, sugarpants.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:36     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
I went to an all-girls school and the teachers all referred to us as ladies or girls as opposed to the so-called gender neutral guys. It made me conscious of the fact that our default gender neutral terminology is, in fact, masculine so I tend to use ladies or girls when referring to a group of women. Not old school. Not condescending.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:30     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."


Calm down sweetie! It wasn't meant as an insult so stop taking it that way.


That's debatable, no? Redskins anyone.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:29     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."


Calm down sweetie! It wasn't meant as an insult so stop taking it that way.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:22     Subject: Re:how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is the problem with someone referring to you as "Ladies"? I don't get it.


It sounds condescending. Call people by their names. I don't send emails to a group of male colleagues and refer to them as "you men" or even "you guys." If I need to refer to them as a group, I respectfully say, "the three of you."
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2014 17:21     Subject: how do I get someone to stop calling me "ladies" respectfully?
It's old school irritating and usually indicates someone with fairly retrograde beliefs about women, but I don't think there's a way to get him to stop. This is an ignore it situation.