Anonymous wrote:How about: people should date the people to whom they are attracted, be that physically, due to common perspectives, interests and goals, etc. Radical concept, huh?

I've never understood limiting one's dating pool by automatically exclusionary physical characteristics like fat, skinny, short, tall, blonde, brunette, etc. All of these characteristics exist on a continuum. I've met many men to whom I've not been physically attracted for one reason or another, but I've met at least as many men to whom I might otherwise have been physically attracted, but ultimately found them very unattractive because of their extreme political views or their goals for their life or just simply the way they treat other human beings. And the other side of the attraction coin is true as well; men who might not have made me turn my head initially became incredibly, irresistibly attractive once I delved deeper than their looks. I can't imagine automatically discounting all men below a certain height, or why men would do the same for all women over a certain weight.

-Signed, a normal weight woman

Anonymous wrote:I guess the dating pool gets pretty bad as we all get older, huh?

I'm 5'9" and never ever ever ever dated a guy shorter than 6'2". Never had issues finding one. however I never did date a jewish or latino guy. Married a guy 6'4"

Are tall guys scarce now?

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing Peter Dinklage has no problem with the ladies, fat, skinny, your mom, or otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:I think fat people who complain about being rejected are often getting rejected by thinner, fitter people. But they don't want to date fatter ones. It's stupid. You can't call someone else "shallow" or be pissed that they won't date you if you're being shallow and not keeping an open mind too. (Same goes for if you're not that attractive but only pursue very attractive people - it's hypocritical to expect others to be more forgiving than you are yourself.)

Just something I've noticed with a few people I know.

I'm 5'8" and don't always date short guys because I figure there are a zillion women shorter than me who could date them. I'm fine dating someone my own height, though. Dating someone who is actually shorter than me feels awkward and weird. I don't rule it out, but it's not my ideal. Flashes me back to 5th grade, when I hit my full height and the guys my age didn't catch up until 11th grade.

IME the shortest women seem to want the tallest men.

MY DH and I are neither -- we are decidedly average. I am 5'5 and he is 5'10.

SO?! I'm 5'1 married to a 6'1 guy. He's awesome and I'm hoping my sons won't be short so they don't have to date fat women

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Anonymous wrote:I think fat people who complain about being rejected are often getting rejected by thinner, fitter people. But they don't want to date fatter ones. It's stupid. You can't call someone else "shallow" or be pissed that they won't date you if you're being shallow and not keeping an open mind too. (Same goes for if you're not that attractive but only pursue very attractive people - it's hypocritical to expect others to be more forgiving than you are yourself.)

Just something I've noticed with a few people I know.

I'm 5'8" and don't always date short guys because I figure there are a zillion women shorter than me who could date them. I'm fine dating someone my own height, though. Dating someone who is actually shorter than me feels awkward and weird. I don't rule it out, but it's not my ideal. Flashes me back to 5th grade, when I hit my full height and the guys my age didn't catch up until 11th grade.

IME the shortest women seem to want the tallest men.

MY DH and I are neither -- we are decidedly average. I am 5'5 and he is 5'10.