Lock your door. Let your DH entertain and deal with her. I don't know if you work or not but hit the road and be busy as much as possible all day long. Invent appointments, outings, classes, whatever - just to be away from her. Don't worry about what she thinks. And for the love of God, tell your DH to stand up to her when she starts on her tirades!!!!

TLR

Married 13 years? U R not a new bride!!