Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:45     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:This is so dumb. If it makes you uncomfortable, then shut it down. It's not complicated. But, no, it's not inappropriate at all. You just have a VERY low tolerance for communication from the opposite sex. Your prerogative.


This. If it makes you uncomfortable, stop. If you are unsure about the situation, stop. If you don't like it, stop. I really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, or even what the woman sending you emails thinks about you.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:39     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
This is so dumb. If it makes you uncomfortable, then shut it down. It's not complicated. But, no, it's not inappropriate at all. You just have a VERY low tolerance for communication from the opposite sex. Your prerogative.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:27     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Email her some porn "by accident" - - - see what she does.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:27     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, she's being inappropriate. I might reply to her and include your wife on the email and say something like, "great article! DW loves soccer, too, so added her on here so she could read it too." Make sure you let your wife know your concerns about this chick so it's clear you aren't encouraging it.


Since when is emailing someone about soccer inappropriate? Idiots.


Aren't you charming. I think it's inappropriate to email with someone else's husband who you aren't great friends with. I wouldn't appreciate if my neighbor's wife started emailing my husband regularly about various topics of interest for him. She likely isn't coming onto him but if it makes him uncomfortable, then it's inappropriate enough that he should send a polite, clear message that he doesn't want to communicate one-on-one w her.



Aren't you charming? It's a question. Not a statement. Acquaintances and friends communicate via email over topics of mutual interest. It's odd that everyone is assuming that soccer couldn't possibly be of interest to the woman. How would she know he's uncomfortable about an email? That's beyond strange anyway.


I would think someone completely insane for telling me they didn't want to communicate with me unless in the safe zone of spousal support.

It was a statement. Sounds like you have reading comprehension and boundary issues.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:26     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
OP - don't let the hens here get under your skin - they all wish to have your problems or to be the other woman (i.e., an attractive MILF). but sadly, they're just sitting in the living room, greasy hair, no makeup, farting out last night's leftovers and hoping they might noticed by the old postman who again delivers the mail to the wrong house.

but back on point you're gut instinct will always serve you right - and listen to that little voice telling you there's danger on the horizon. sounds like she's fishing - maybe she got a vibe from you at a party or maybe it's the titillation of pissing off your wife that get's her hot for you. whatever it is, stay away (unless you want to of course).
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:22     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:We are pretty good friends with a family that lives a couple of houses down the street. We're in our early 30s and they in late 40s. The wife is a SAHM and I see her every morning as I walk our dog before I leave for work (my alone time). She's always wearing workout clothes and is always very friendly. Over the last few weeks she's been sending me emails about fairly innocuous things but recently about the World Cup etc (she knows i like soccer). I feel a bit icky replying since my wife and her husband aren't included in the thread and I get a desperate HW vibe from her. Also feel weird because her husband is in Germany & then Geneva for the next 2 weeks for work and I wonder if she's "lonely".


Quick fix:

Forward one of these "fairly innocuous" emails to your wife and encourage her to join in the discussion - not in an accusatory or "What's going on here" manner, but just in a "Hey, I hope we kick Germany's ass!" adding to the conversation type of manner and see what develops. If the neighbor backs off its obvious she wasn't merely conversation she wanted. If she continues corresponding with you both then her intentions are reasonably clarified and your wife is in the know and everybody's happy.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:22     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
OP here. Another thing, I really like her husband. he's a really nice guy, who obliviously works a ton out of the house but I kind of consider him a big brother figure. He's introduced me to a number of people that have been good contacts for work, and has offered to get me into a few clubs here. Solid guy.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:20     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well I am handsome and i get hit on women all the time. That being said, I find it weird that a married woman would start an email conversation with me and keep it going back and forth. Also she's been a bit "fun" at a party when she was drunk and suggested that we go to the bars.


If you were really handsome, (BS) and got hit on all the time, you certainly would have no need of DCUM to tell you how to handle it.

I believe you to be: A LIAR!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:18     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, she's being inappropriate. I might reply to her and include your wife on the email and say something like, "great article! DW loves soccer, too, so added her on here so she could read it too." Make sure you let your wife know your concerns about this chick so it's clear you aren't encouraging it.


Since when is emailing someone about soccer inappropriate? Idiots.


Aren't you charming. I think it's inappropriate to email with someone else's husband who you aren't great friends with. I wouldn't appreciate if my neighbor's wife started emailing my husband regularly about various topics of interest for him. She likely isn't coming onto him but if it makes him uncomfortable, then it's inappropriate enough that he should send a polite, clear message that he doesn't want to communicate one-on-one w her.



Aren't you charming? It's a question. Not a statement. Acquaintances and friends communicate via email over topics of mutual interest. It's odd that everyone is assuming that soccer couldn't possibly be of interest to the woman. How would she know he's uncomfortable about an email? That's beyond strange anyway.

I would think someone completely insane for telling me they didn't want to communicate with me unless in the safe zone of spousal support.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:18     Subject: Re:Is she being inappropriate?
Honestly if she's your neighbor you may want to be careful with how you handle this. She may just like to harmlessly flirt or hang out with men instead of women. Wait and see what else she does before you run and tell your wife or use the wife card. She already knows your married. Asking to go to a bar and some emails at this point are harmless, but if it starts being too much then just show her your not interested and DONT FLIRT BACK AT ALL.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:15     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:Also why would a late 40s woman want to be friends with me an early 30s dad with a toddler? Add to the fact that my wife doesn't think she likes her, I think she does want me.


I can't imagine why she'd want to be friends with you. You sound like a self absorbed ass.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:14     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Bang away my man!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:10     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
I'd be displeased if some random neighbor started emailing my husband and I'm typically pretty laid back about this stuff.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:06     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Anonymous wrote:I would forward the email to the police. If she goes psycho it is very important you have documented everything.


LOL!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2014 16:02     Subject: Is she being inappropriate?
Also why would a late 40s woman want to be friends with me an early 30s dad with a toddler? Add to the fact that my wife doesn't think she likes her, I think she does want me.