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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a good stories about losing your "perfect home" and then things worked out for the better? I'm so gutted about losing out on a house that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and this real estate market is so awful! I know there are worse things in life but I loved it and the way it all went down makes me feel unsettled with all the could of, would of, should of...

We were pissed when some asshat paid asking for a grossly overpriced house. But I had to remind myself that there are plenty of perfect homes....

They wanted the house and were willing to pay to get it. You wanted to negotiate. You can't be upset with the buyer who got the house.

+1

If the “asshat” bought it, it wasn’t overpriced.

No, the real "asshat" is the one who posted the comment.

Circa 2017 we went through a bunch of bidding wars. The one that almost made me give up was losing out on a “perfect” house, which in retrospect had a horrible layout that we were willing to overlook because of a great location and super cute curb appeal (and a bit of desperation).

About 6 months later, we ended up snapping up our correct house that already had another offer on it the day after it hit the market (we were aggressive this go round). It lacked the curb appeal of the other house, but the layout has been so much better (we actually have a real home office and an extra bedroom for guests), and because it cost less than the other house, we had $ leftover for cosmetic updates, so it now has much better siding and landscaping that we could choose ourselves.

We still ended up just a few blocks over from “the one that go away” and have amazing neighbors whose kids are best friends with our kids. Like I can’t imagine if we hadn’t landed where we did.

Don’t lose hope OP. More houses will pop up this spring.

Anonymous wrote:Same happened here and we lost forever home, a bungalow, to another offer who got in first, I'm retired and husband in ill health. It would have given us so much peace especially garden. Keep thinking about it and feeling sad, these type properties so few and far between. Gets harder as you get older.

I'm sure she's still thinking about it 11 years after she posted it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a good stories about losing your "perfect home" and then things worked out for the better? I'm so gutted about losing out on a house that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and this real estate market is so awful! I know there are worse things in life but I loved it and the way it all went down makes me feel unsettled with all the could of, would of, should of...

We were pissed when some asshat paid asking for a grossly overpriced house. But I had to remind myself that there are plenty of perfect homes....

They wanted the house and were willing to pay to get it. You wanted to negotiate. You can't be upset with the buyer who got the house.

+1

If the “asshat” bought it, it wasn’t overpriced.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a good stories about losing your "perfect home" and then things worked out for the better? I'm so gutted about losing out on a house that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and this real estate market is so awful! I know there are worse things in life but I loved it and the way it all went down makes me feel unsettled with all the could of, would of, should of...

We were pissed when some asshat paid asking for a grossly overpriced house. But I had to remind myself that there are plenty of perfect homes....

Obviously it was worth what it sold for.
You are the asshat who tried to lowball and lost it.
Remind yourself that those grapes were sour anyways.

We missed out on 1 house that would have been perfect due to our agent not finding out if there were other offers so we could bid higher if need be. Just an Oops, they took another offer. We had been looking forever and I was upset.

It took another year and a much better house came on the market (more expensive, granted) but in a much better area. We are now grateful that it didn't work out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have a good stories about losing your "perfect home" and then things worked out for the better? I'm so gutted about losing out on a house that I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and this real estate market is so awful! I know there are worse things in life but I loved it and the way it all went down makes me feel unsettled with all the could of, would of, should of...

We were pissed when some asshat paid asking for a grossly overpriced house. But I had to remind myself that there are plenty of perfect homes....

They wanted the house and were willing to pay to get it. You wanted to negotiate. You can't be upset with the buyer who got the house.

Same happened here and we lost forever home, a bungalow, to another offer who got in first, I'm retired and husband in ill health. It would have given us so much peace especially garden. Keep thinking about it and feeling sad, these type properties so few and far between. Gets harder as you get older.

You all will find a nice home that you will love. Keep looking - you'll find it .

OP here - 14:14 that's a great story! I think I'm driving myself crazy elevating this house in my mind to something it wasn't. I made a lot of mistakes and it's rough to learn the hard way. I hope something better turns up and also for the other poster who is looking!

In 2011 I went crazy over a house. We lost it after a bidding war, in which we agreed to pay well over asking -- but still not enough. I think there were a dozen bidders. Anyway, I mourned, then moved on and maybe two months later, while we were still looking, got a call from our agent saying that the deal for that house had fallen through and would we want it for something close to the original asking price.
But we didn't. I'd used the time to educate myself more about the market and my own tastes. Thank goodness! We found something so much better.

OP, you have my sympathy. We're looking for a bigger space in our current neighborhood and places like we want come up once or twice a year. Meanwhile, prices are rising faster than our income seems to be. We lost out on a perfect place (the number of bedrooms and size we want in our 'hood) earlier this summer by just a small amount relative to what it went under contract for and we're completely bummed. I'm sure we'll figure out a plan B and move on, but I really would like to stay here but really feel like the opportunity cost is getting too high. So, yeah, I get where you're coming from. Here's to hoping that all the cheery boosters on this site are right and we'll find some other place we really like living or something.

A lot of people idealize their dream house only to realize at some point after moving in that their dream has now changed. That big house out in the far out suburbs may seem nice, but all of a sudden you have to spend a lot to fill it with furniture, your commute sucks so much that you never see your spouse, are constantly stressed, and come to dread Sunday nights. All of a sudden you miss that too-small house in the city where you could walk to everything and your knew your neighbors.

A lot of examples like these.

Anonymous wrote:There is no perfect house. I am sitting in the "dream forever house" we bought 6 months ago and I kinda hate it.

what is wrong with you? can you not ever be happy with anything? Appalling.

I am perfectly happy with my perfect house. I am sure you will be too when you find yours, OP. it was not the one you lost.

Remember that nothing has ever happened in your life that in the long run was not good for you. Consider it a blessing in disguise.