Anonymous wrote:If he is normal weight but doesn't eat in social situations because he is too stimulated that sounds age related to me. There's not necessarily a diagnosis called for here. Many young children are too stimulated outside the home to talk much, to eat, to interact and do the things they might normally do. It's a matter of age and stimulation level. This is not a syndrome or diagnosis.

What is strange is your relatives telling her to "toughen up and make the boy eat." What is their investment in this? Controlling him?

As long as he is hydrated, this is so not a big deal.

Anonymous wrote:I think it isn't your business OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspectives. Its easy to say "none of my business" but I love my sister and I love my nephew and I am trying to help and be supportive. I was simply wondering if others had experienced a similar situation. He has gone to feeding clinics before and they say its part of a sensory issue but don't have much help beyond that. Like I said he is not underweight so I don't think the professionals he has seen have really worried too much about the food issues. Sister and DN did go home last night, got a good meal in him and a good nights sleep. She will drive back today to join us if he wants to. (It is only about a 3 hour drive). They did try eating in the car or in a room alone and he didn't take to it. My sister has been told manyy professionals to NOT start drinks like pedicure or protein shakes because it will only fill him up and make him less likely to eat but I think she might buckle and try them this week. He doesn't drink milk well...maybe 4 oz a day. Drinks water all day long so hydration is not an issue. Thanks for those who have helped and please know my sister DOES come to me for advice and guidance and thats why I am gathering experiences. It is definitely not because I want to judge her or my DN, I want to be helpful and knowledgeable. There just seems to me so little about this particular issue on the internet I thought Id reach out to personal experiences.

I'm a parent of a sn child and had to deal with relatives like you. It is not your business and what you are doing is not being supportive. You are trying to take the active role of parent. Giving advice and offering suggestions add to mom's stress. It's a nice idea to educate yourself but keep your advice/knowledge to yourself. You don't support the other relatives advice re forcing the child to eat, do you? Why would she come to you for advice when you have little clue as to what she is going through? You haven't walked in her shoes, so if you want to support her offer to clean her house, run errands, etc. Leave the parenting to her.

Your sister is doing a great job being a wonderful mother to this child.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspectives. Its easy to say "none of my business" but I love my sister and I love my nephew and I am trying to help and be supportive. I was simply wondering if others had experienced a similar situation. He has gone to feeding clinics before and they say its part of a sensory issue but don't have much help beyond that. Like I said he is not underweight so I don't think the professionals he has seen have really worried too much about the food issues. Sister and DN did go home last night, got a good meal in him and a good nights sleep. She will drive back today to join us if he wants to. (It is only about a 3 hour drive). They did try eating in the car or in a room alone and he didn't take to it. My sister has been told manyy professionals to NOT start drinks like pedicure or protein shakes because it will only fill him up and make him less likely to eat but I think she might buckle and try them this week. He doesn't drink milk well...maybe 4 oz a day. Drinks water all day long so hydration is not an issue. Thanks for those who have helped and please know my sister DOES come to me for advice and guidance and thats why I am gathering experiences. It is definitely not because I want to judge her or my DN, I want to be helpful and knowledgeable. There just seems to me so little about this particular issue on the internet I thought Id reach out to personal experiences.

I'm a parent of a sn child and had to deal with relatives like you. It is not your business and what you are doing is not being supportive. You are trying to take the active role of parent. Giving advice and offering suggestions add to mom's stress. It's a nice idea to educate yourself but keep your advice/knowledge to yourself. You don't support the other relatives advice re forcing the child to eat, do you? Why would she come to you for advice when you have little clue as to what she is going through? You haven't walked in her shoes, so if you want to support her offer to clean her house, run errands, etc. Leave the parenting to her.

Your sister is doing a great job being a wonderful mother to this child.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspectives. Its easy to say "none of my business" but I love my sister and I love my nephew and I am trying to help and be supportive. I was simply wondering if others had experienced a similar situation. He has gone to feeding clinics before and they say its part of a sensory issue but don't have much help beyond that. Like I said he is not underweight so I don't think the professionals he has seen have really worried too much about the food issues. Sister and DN did go home last night, got a good meal in him and a good nights sleep. She will drive back today to join us if he wants to. (It is only about a 3 hour drive). They did try eating in the car or in a room alone and he didn't take to it. My sister has been told manyy professionals to NOT start drinks like pedicure or protein shakes because it will only fill him up and make him less likely to eat but I think she might buckle and try them this week. He doesn't drink milk well...maybe 4 oz a day. Drinks water all day long so hydration is not an issue. Thanks for those who have helped and please know my sister DOES come to me for advice and guidance and thats why I am gathering experiences. It is definitely not because I want to judge her or my DN, I want to be helpful and knowledgeable. There just seems to me so little about this particular issue on the internet I thought Id reach out to personal experiences.