OP,

I throw house parties and include siblings' names on the invitations so that parents clearly understand they can bring them all if they wish. Usually whole families stay and it's a lot of fun for everyone.

However when I was living in an apartment and had to use expensive venues with head counts, I only invited my child's friends and would not have been able to accommodate siblings.

If you have a good relationship with the host, you can ask whether siblings can come.
If not, don't even ask because they might resent being put on the spot.

Hope this helps.

Because everyone thinks that all their children are awesome and they simply aren't. I had a home party for my daughter's 3rd birthday. One family brought their 10 and 7 year old sons in addition to their 3 year old daughter who was the invited guest. The older boys got in the moon bounce that I rented and thought it was funny to push down the little kids while they were jumping in the moon bounce. I didn't think it was funny and pulled the mom aside to asked her to tell them to stop. They didn't really stop. I ended up having to put my husband inside the moon bounce to keep elementary school aged children from knocking down preschoolers for fun for the remainder of the party.

This is only one example. I made the mistake of including siblings one more time, but after having problems at that party, my invitation is the one that says very clearly that we cannot accommodate uninvited siblings and we understand completely if that means that our invitation will be declined.

Anonymous wrote:When you bring uninvited guests, you're saying that your convenience outweighs the plans of the host. You wouldn't expect them to reschedule it if you can't make that date, would you? Sometimes you can't make it. If you can't make it without bringing an extra guest, this is one of those times.

+1. The entitlement of some PPs is truly appalling. Especially the ones trying to couch it as ungracious on the host's part, to not want uninvited siblings. Unbelievable.

We had my DD's party at a gym place and the limit for guests was 18 so the place literally could not take any more people beyond those we invited - which included DD's preschool classmates and her cousins. I had a few people ask if they could bring siblings and I felt bad saying no, but the venue simply had a number limit so I couldn't add more people even if I wanted to pay more.

When you bring uninvited guests, you're saying that your convenience outweighs the plans of the host. You wouldn't expect them to reschedule it if you can't make that date, would you? Sometimes you can't make it. If you can't make it without bringing an extra guest, this is one of those times.

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Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

Yeah, if you can't host twice the amount of kids that you actually invited, just don't even HAVE the party. You fucking disgusting poor person. I mean, why should it be left to the parents of the invitees to have basic manners?

Wow, don't you sound like a lovely person? I wouldn't want to attend a party with a host like you.

We are generous people and have a lot of family friends. Definitely not used to such a hostile attitude towards a party for 3-4 year olds. Sheesh.

My child has 15 other children in his class. With him, the party is for 16 children. Everyone has at least one sibling if not two. Are you telling me if I can afford to host a party for a min of 31 children, I should not host a party at all? If you allow one family to being siblings, it's nice to extend the courtesy to all families.

These are the same people who probably don't want to feed parents at non-drop off parties.

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Anonymous wrote:18:45. That was sarcasm.

Still want to raise my kids to be gracious and giving. We don't need friends like you.

If you want to be gracious, then don't bring uninvited kids to a party, and then act like if the host can't afford it then they shouldn't have had the party in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:18:45. That was sarcasm.

Still want to raise my kids to be gracious and giving. We don't need friends like you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

Yeah, if you can't host twice the amount of kids that you actually invited, just don't even HAVE the party. You fucking disgusting poor person. I mean, why should it be left to the parents of the invitees to have basic manners?

Wow, don't you sound like a lovely person? I wouldn't want to attend a party with a host like you.

We are generous people and have a lot of family friends. Definitely not used to such a hostile attitude towards a party for 3-4 year olds. Sheesh.

I think it's pretty hostile to tell people that if they can't accommodate a bunch of uninvited guests, that they shouldn't even have a party for their kid. Incredibly rude.

18:45. That was sarcasm.

Single parent here - I only have one child. But if I didn't I would hire a sitter.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

Yeah, if you can't host twice the amount of kids that you actually invited, just don't even HAVE the party. You fucking disgusting poor person. I mean, why should it be left to the parents of the invitees to have basic manners?

Wow, don't you sound like a lovely person? I wouldn't want to attend a party with a host like you.

We are generous people and have a lot of family friends. Definitely not used to such a hostile attitude towards a party for 3-4 year olds. Sheesh.

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Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

If you can't afford a babysitter for three hours, you shouldn't have had a second kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Why? Because your siblings cost the host money. And your presumption that they should be included is incredibly rude. The party isn't for your convenience.

If you can't afford a few extra 2 year olds, maybe you shouldn't be hosting a party.

No, you shouldn't be attending parties if you don't grasp basic etiquette.