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Anonymous wrote:Most old money people I know are very smart. The lifestyle is so very different than new money. Even the language is different. Everything is in code. One word means something else. They are pretty much deathly afraid that you will push you preconceptions onto them and so they tend to be pretty reserved. At least the ones I know.

Please provide some examples of this code of which you speak. I know lots of old money types and as far as I know, they talk like I do. But maybe I just don't understand what they are really saying

Sometimes they are so extremely nice and mannerly that you get the impression that you are better friends than you really are. Sorry mid is blank on code words at this moment.

U and non-U, but does anybody say these anymore?

"What a nice new rug/car/chair that is." The word "new" is often *not* a compliment. The same is true in France, incidentally.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the PP who made the generational observation is spot on. The only way New Money gets to be Old Money is by making sure there is one fiscally responsible person calling the shots in each generation. Otherwise, in my experience, the kids of New Money will just piss it away on stupid investments trying (and failing) to live up to Daddy's (or Mommy's) business acumen---especially if they have never been expected to hold down a real job or live on a lowly starting salary. The best thing that rich people can do for their kids is to teach them how to live without money for at least some period of their lives. The next best thing ---especially for family business owners--is to make sure your kid does as stint in someone else's business---starting at the bottom. And the fundamental rule of remaining Old Money is "Thou shalt not touch principal"

Actually it's the old money that hasn't ever had to hold down a real job or a lowly salary.

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Anonymous wrote:Most old money people I know are very smart. The lifestyle is so very different than new money. Even the language is different. Everything is in code. One word means something else. They are pretty much deathly afraid that you will push you preconceptions onto them and so they tend to be pretty reserved. At least the ones I know.

Please provide some examples of this code of which you speak. I know lots of old money types and as far as I know, they talk like I do. But maybe I just don't understand what they are really saying

Sometimes they are so extremely nice and mannerly that you get the impression that you are better friends than you really are. Sorry mid is blank on code words at this moment.

U and non-U, but does anybody say these anymore?

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Anonymous wrote:Most old money people I know are very smart. The lifestyle is so very different than new money. Even the language is different. Everything is in code. One word means something else. They are pretty much deathly afraid that you will push you preconceptions onto them and so they tend to be pretty reserved. At least the ones I know.

Please provide some examples of this code of which you speak. I know lots of old money types and as far as I know, they talk like I do. But maybe I just don't understand what they are really saying

Sometimes they are so extremely nice and mannerly that you get the impression that you are better friends than you really are. Sorry mid is blank on code words at this moment.

Anonymous wrote:I think the PP who made the generational observation is spot on. The only way New Money gets to be Old Money is by making sure there is one fiscally responsible person calling the shots in each generation. Otherwise, in my experience, the kids of New Money will just piss it away on stupid investments trying (and failing) to live up to Daddy's (or Mommy's) business acumen---especially if they have never been expected to hold down a real job or live on a lowly starting salary. The best thing that rich people can do for their kids is to teach them how to live without money for at least some period of their lives. The next best thing ---especially for family business owners--is to make sure your kid does as stint in someone else's business---starting at the bottom. And the fundamental rule of remaining Old Money is "Thou shalt not touch principal"

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Anonymous wrote:Simple calculus: you can have your cake, or you can eat it.

New money eats it. Big houses, flashy cars, etc. Pretty soon, it's gone.

But, duh, new money has to buy house car ect, while old money already has it.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok let's say you take a new money person and an old money person. Which one can create wealth from scratch?

What is the deal with old money scared to spend money? Are they too dumb to create it from scratch? Inheritance, is that their only skill?

Tell me about your old money lifestyles.

Old money is both lucky and smart. Lucky to inherit it, smart to keep it.

Anonymous wrote:I think the PP who made the generational observation is spot on. The only way New Money gets to be Old Money is by making sure there is one fiscally responsible person calling the shots in each generation. Otherwise, in my experience, the kids of New Money will just piss it away on stupid investments trying (and failing) to live up to Daddy's (or Mommy's) business acumen---especially if they have never been expected to hold down a real job or live on a lowly starting salary. The best thing that rich people can do for their kids is to teach them how to live without money for at least some period of their lives. The next best thing ---especially for family business owners--is to make sure your kid does as stint in someone else's business---starting at the bottom. And the fundamental rule of remaining Old Money is "Thou shalt not touch principal"[/quote]

This. I don't know how many times I heard my Mother say this when we asked for various things. Much of the money is gone, but there are still a few generation-skipping trusts around that will arrive eventually. Estate planning (the aforesaid trusts) is a big help for preserving principal.