Anonymous
05/29/2014 20:28
Subject: I hate my husband's parents
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if someone is making racist comments, I tell them to leave my house. I do not tolerate that shit. I would give them one warning--"MIL, that kind of comment is not acceptable in our home. We do not talk like that and if you continue to make comments like that I will have to ask you to leave." Then do.
Otherwise, minimize your contact with them, try not to see them without other company, and stand up for yourself and your family when needed. When she calls your parents "new money," just look at her and say, "That's not a nice thing to say. I would appreciate it if you did not make unkind comments about my parents." Or whatever phrase fits you.
This. Seriously. It will be really hard but once you do it, you will be so much happier.
Anonymous
05/29/2014 10:02
Subject: I hate my husband's parents
Hello, paragraphs? I wanted to read this but I just couldn't do the giant block of text.
Anonymous
05/29/2014 09:42
Subject: I hate my husband's parents
They asked to stay there.
You didn't have to say yes. Your mistake.
You didn't have to say yes. Your mistake.
Anonymous
05/29/2014 09:40
Subject: I hate my husband's parents
Anonymous wrote:My MIL is worse. That's all.
Mine is worse too
Anonymous
05/29/2014 09:39
Subject: I hate my husband's parents
My MIL is worse. That's all.
Anonymous
05/29/2014 09:22
Subject: Re:I hate my husband's parents
Sorry, no real advice, just commiseration. Limit contact as much as possible.
My FIL makes racist and other comments that piss me off. I'm Asian; DH is white. In the beginning, I would try to converse with him when he made such comments. Now, I just shut my mouth and hardly say one word to him. Yes, I practically ignore him. I'm not rude, just don't engage him in conversation. My case is different though. They live in a different country so we hardly see them. And they are really old and probably won't last too long so I try not to stir the pot. But even my DH hates some of what he says. He got really upset with them once about a comment my FIL made in front of me. I kept my mouth shut, not because I am the stereotypical submissive Asian wife, but for the reasons I stated above. I put up with it since I don't see them often, and they won't last much longer. Your DH needs to run interference.
My FIL makes racist and other comments that piss me off. I'm Asian; DH is white. In the beginning, I would try to converse with him when he made such comments. Now, I just shut my mouth and hardly say one word to him. Yes, I practically ignore him. I'm not rude, just don't engage him in conversation. My case is different though. They live in a different country so we hardly see them. And they are really old and probably won't last too long so I try not to stir the pot. But even my DH hates some of what he says. He got really upset with them once about a comment my FIL made in front of me. I kept my mouth shut, not because I am the stereotypical submissive Asian wife, but for the reasons I stated above. I put up with it since I don't see them often, and they won't last much longer. Your DH needs to run interference.
Anonymous
05/29/2014 09:10
Subject: I hate my husband's parents
Honestly, if someone is making racist comments, I tell them to leave my house. I do not tolerate that shit. I would give them one warning--"MIL, that kind of comment is not acceptable in our home. We do not talk like that and if you continue to make comments like that I will have to ask you to leave." Then do.
Otherwise, minimize your contact with them, try not to see them without other company, and stand up for yourself and your family when needed. When she calls your parents "new money," just look at her and say, "That's not a nice thing to say. I would appreciate it if you did not make unkind comments about my parents." Or whatever phrase fits you.
Otherwise, minimize your contact with them, try not to see them without other company, and stand up for yourself and your family when needed. When she calls your parents "new money," just look at her and say, "That's not a nice thing to say. I would appreciate it if you did not make unkind comments about my parents." Or whatever phrase fits you.