"Sorry, Phyllis, right now isn't a good time for us. How about tomorrow afternoon at 2?"

Say NO every time she wants to stop by with no notice. Seriously. this will go on for a whole nother year otherwise!

My MIL is very similar but she does not live within driving distance. She tells DS, "oh, I love you so much. Muah, Muah, muah, kisses, kisses. I love you." Yet is constantly "too busy" to FaceTime, talk, send emails. When we are together, she sleeps in, invites friends over, ignores him. Wth?

I agree with the PPs that say that you should get some stuff done during the times your MIL is there. She is ignoring you anyway. Might as well get some grocery shopping done, or some laundry, or even maybe go to the gym or get your nails done.

It does suck that she is so last minute about everything, but I would use it to my advantage.

Anonymous wrote:Use the time that she shows up to do laundry or run an errand. Otherwise ignore her texts. Answer only one in three or four. "Let me know when you'd like to come by".

Or read a book or read DCUM or work-out. You'll feel less ignored and she'll be useful, rather than a PITA.

You are right that it's a short-term problem, OP. I wouldn't make a big deal about this because it'll be a moot point very soon.

Anonymous wrote:"What would you do? "

Learn how to be a better writer.

While it was not grammatically spotless, I found OP's style quite entertaining and refreshing. It was the only reason I read the whole post.