Anonymous
Post 05/21/2014 17:58     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:They do this often on Mad Men.


Go to the movies by themselves?
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2014 17:57     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
They do this often on Mad Men.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2014 17:28     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
I've found that men, even very engaged fathers, tend to take time for themselves to recalibrate without asking permission, making an apology, or wrestling with internal guilt.
I don't mean a traditional boys' night out per say, but just taking an hour or two if they need it. Those are also the happier marriages from I can see --as an outside observer, of course.


Anonymous
Post 05/21/2014 14:19     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?


Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.


Not the OP but if I tell my husband I'm going to be off he'll constantly call so we can have useless conversations and pretty much bug the sh*t out of me. If I'm at work he wont bother me at all.


Exactly.

My favorite call was always: What do I feed the kid?

Seriously? There's a full fridge. Cupboards of food. And a binder of delivery menus.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2014 14:17     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:Man here.
Are we talking about slaves or something? I would have zero respect for a woman who asked me permission to do anything.

If my wife told me she went to the movies in the middle of the day I'd get mad only if she saw something that I wanted to see together. If it were a romantic comedy or something like that then I'd be so happy she didn't ask me to go that I'd comp her ticket for her.


You're awesome.
I have no idea who you are or what you look like, but I find you incredibly hot at this moment.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2014 14:10     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:I do this for the sci movies and action blockbusters my partner hates. I sneak a boozy milkshake in my purse. Favorite combo was The Wolverine and a pint of Haagen Das's coconut macaroon mixed only with enough coconut rum that it was liquidy.


I truly love you people
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2014 11:42     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?


Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.


Not the OP but if I tell my husband I'm going to be off he'll constantly call so we can have useless conversations and pretty much bug the sh*t out of me. If I'm at work he wont bother me at all.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2014 10:28     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?


Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.


I think you misunderstand what you're hearing. They're not asking permission. They are checking schedules to make sure that at least one parent is home with the children.

Me: Bob, Larla and I want to go see Godzilla tomorrow evening. Is that okay?
DH: Yeah, I should be home from work at the usual time.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 18:26     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Man here.
Are we talking about slaves or something? I would have zero respect for a woman who asked me permission to do anything.

If my wife told me she went to the movies in the middle of the day I'd get mad only if she saw something that I wanted to see together. If it were a romantic comedy or something like that then I'd be so happy she didn't ask me to go that I'd comp her ticket for her.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 17:13     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
I go to the movies by myself sometimes. Lots of my friends, do, too, and they're all over the place, demographically speaking. Male, female, married, single, gay, straight, all ages.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 17:09     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
No, I don't...But it doesn't sound like a bad idea.

In fact, it sounds like a great idea to me.

I would love to catch a movie the day it opens and watch it in peace by myself.
Anonymous
Post 05/19/2014 15:27     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
At least once a year, I leave the office early and slip into the movies, never told a soul.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2014 23:30     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?


Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.


Huh? Where are these women? Do they actually ask for permission, as in "May I go to the movies?"

Or is it "Hey honey, so I was able to get out of work early and decided to go see Jaws 7 this afternoon. It was great. How was your day?" I'm married and have done that.


More like, "Is there anyway possible that I can get a couple hours to myself this week? I want to _____."


It's because the mom is often the default parent--I can't rely on DH to get home at a certain time to stay with the kids and don't feel like paying a sitter just to go watch a movie.


It should be important to both you and he that you get some time to yourself.

Women will always be the default parent if we accept that role.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2014 23:25     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?


Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.


Huh? Where are these women? Do they actually ask for permission, as in "May I go to the movies?"

Or is it "Hey honey, so I was able to get out of work early and decided to go see Jaws 7 this afternoon. It was great. How was your day?" I'm married and have done that.


More like, "Is there anyway possible that I can get a couple hours to myself this week? I want to _____."


It's because the mom is often the default parent--I can't rely on DH to get home at a certain time to stay with the kids and don't feel like paying a sitter just to go watch a movie.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2014 22:23     Subject: Am I the only one that does this?
Anonymous wrote:Every so often I'll take a Friday off or work half a day and go watch a midday movie by myself. I'll buy popcorn and a soda (I Nader drink soda in my regular life) and a pack of skittles. On Friday I watched "Neighbors" which was actually pretty funny. I never invite nor tell my spouse about it.


Ummm, I've never done this. But, after reading it, I absolutely LOVE it. And, I'm going to do this myself (except for the Skittles - I prefer chocolate). Thanks for the idea!