Anonymous
05/13/2014 12:04
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Are you younger than they are? You sound like you're in 8th grade.
Stop competing. You will lose.
Stop competing. You will lose.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 12:04
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Oh come on. You really are coming off as the mean step mom here. She gave you the cold shoulder because:
1. She thinks you don't like her.
2. She thinks you're keeping your dad away from her
3. She thinks you're intentionally poisoning her dad - telling him that he should not emotionally support his daughters.
4. She thinks you're trying to take all his money for yourself and that you're selfish. A bib? Seriously?this is HER FATHER, who should be giving her the largest present at the shower. She's about to give him a grandchild.
5. She thinks you are trying to prevent her dad from being a truly present loving grandfather to her baby.
And aren't you doing these things? Can't you open your heart?
1. She thinks you don't like her.
2. She thinks you're keeping your dad away from her
3. She thinks you're intentionally poisoning her dad - telling him that he should not emotionally support his daughters.
4. She thinks you're trying to take all his money for yourself and that you're selfish. A bib? Seriously?this is HER FATHER, who should be giving her the largest present at the shower. She's about to give him a grandchild.
5. She thinks you are trying to prevent her dad from being a truly present loving grandfather to her baby.
And aren't you doing these things? Can't you open your heart?
Anonymous
05/13/2014 12:00
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
What I mean about being emotionally independent is they should not expect anything from us/ particularly me.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:57
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
It's rude to complain about gifts but you seriously only sent your grandkid a bib?[/quote]
+1
She didn't complain about the gift at least aloud, instead she gave me the cold shoulder which was much worse.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:54
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
It's rude to complain about gifts but you seriously only sent your grandkid a bib?[/quote]
+1
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:50
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
Why would you NOT want to give more to your grandchild if you 1) have it and 2) they need it? Of course they resent you. I hope they cut you out of their life completely.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:49
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:You sound very angry. Stop giving the rest of us a bad name.
-Stepmom
+1. I could never imagine being so angry at my stepson. Or thinking that I would take priority over him.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:49
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Honestly, this just makes me sad. Daughters should be able to depend on their fathers, even well into their 20s and beyond, for emotional support. You taking pleasure in cutting out the daughters is just, well, sad. It's terribly terribly sad. Open your heart and be charitable. They are his daughters, his children, his babies.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:48
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
OP do you have any relationship with your parents? What do you mean by "emotionally indepdenent?"
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:47
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
That's his decision to make, not yours. Let him navigate the relationship with them - stay out of it.
PS. that was pretty cheap of the two of you. Though very rude of her as well.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:46
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
It's rude to complain about gifts but you seriously only sent your grandkid a bib?
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:46
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
That's his decision to make, not yours. Let him navigate the relationship with them - stay out of it.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:45
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.
Anonymous
05/13/2014 11:04
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
OP if you want any sympathy we need a little more backstory. Did you marry later in life and the step daughters are actually 20-something adults? What have they done to you?
Anonymous
05/13/2014 10:34
Subject: Dear Obnoxious Stepdaughters...
You sound very angry. Stop giving the rest of us a bad name.
-Stepmom
-Stepmom