Anonymous
Post 05/11/2014 09:12     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
No, the real marital issue is still that she is lying to you.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2014 09:00     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Anonymous wrote:Voice Activated Recorder - velcro it under her seat. If there is an other man, she'll probably call him when she's in the car alone.


Do you cut and paste this ridiculous response in every single affair thread?

Let's assume for the sake of argument that she's not having an affair and everything is above board, & had you just asked, she would have happily explained what's been going on. . Then she finds that you've been tracking her every move on metro, and secretly recording her singing along to the radio when she's in the car alone. Now you have a real marital issue, and it's your paranoia.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 23:14     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
I'm confused. What is the point of waiting? Why not just confront? A person who is working late works at their office. OP has caught his wife in a life. OP, what's the latest?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 20:44     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Anonymous wrote:Or maybe she's helping a friend through a domestic violence situation and trying to protect her friend. Maybe her coworker gave her a ride home because it was so late. Jesus, you are a paranoid bunch. Just ask her straight up.

Also, if I were to have an affair, I can't imagine I'd be stupid enough to text that person on a phone line my spouse had access to, or ask to borrow my spouse's SmartCard (who doesn't, in this area, have their own SmartCard?). The whole OP sounds fake to me, or he's married to the dumbest woman in the world, which may be enough reason for a divorce.


OP don't listen to this person who obviously is ignorant and displays ill will. Cheaters do profoundly stupid things! Make your head spin with stupidity and lies to cover.

Helping a domestic violence situation
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 20:35     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Anonymous wrote:I would wait and try to gather more information. And I say this from experience.


TRUTH to power!

It will feel insane to wait, but please, please get the proof. They lie, lie lie, and gaslight and throw you completely off balance.

Hugs to OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 17:34     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Anonymous wrote:And now, thousands of cheaters know to never borrow the spouses' SmartTrip card.


No kidding, I had no idea they could be traced like that. Good looking out OP
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 17:33     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?
I'd say you have reason to be concerned but it may be innocent. Has her attitude to sex with you changed?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 17:31     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Has she checked out emotionally/physically from the marriage?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 17:29     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
How's the marriage? Kids?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 17:21     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
This is the first year I started to text friends a lot!!! Prior to this I didn't. Its a bit addictive. Im just offering another point of view. Also, if she's working late, possible she had dinner somewhere and colleague dropped her to the closest stop.
It could all be explained. Those two things alone aren't enough.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 14:27     Subject: Re:Signs of an Affair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Confirm what you suspect BEFORE you confront her. Don't ask her. TELL her.


+1 Another voice of experience here.


+2. Sit and wait. If you're like me that will be hard, but you want a solid case when you tell her you know. Otherwise she will try to manipulate you into thinking you're crazy.



+3

Verfiy everything before you say ANYTHING to her. You need more proof than this.

Can you get the phone to check the texts?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 14:23     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Why don't you do a reverse-lookup on the phone number, or at least google it?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 12:46     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
And now, thousands of cheaters know to never borrow the spouses' SmartTrip card.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 12:22     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Or maybe she's helping a friend through a domestic violence situation and trying to protect her friend. Maybe her coworker gave her a ride home because it was so late. Jesus, you are a paranoid bunch. Just ask her straight up.

Also, if I were to have an affair, I can't imagine I'd be stupid enough to text that person on a phone line my spouse had access to, or ask to borrow my spouse's SmartCard (who doesn't, in this area, have their own SmartCard?). The whole OP sounds fake to me, or he's married to the dumbest woman in the world, which may be enough reason for a divorce.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2014 11:25     Subject: Signs of an Affair?
Voice Activated Recorder - velcro it under her seat. If there is an other man, she'll probably call him when she's in the car alone.