Anonymous
Post 05/06/2014 09:58     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Misery loves company. Sorry about your predicament but you've got lots of company.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 22:27     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Answer: Love - what else? I am being honest, so plz don't judge.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 21:32     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Anonymous wrote:Same problem with me. I LOVE sex, and I used to have sex all the time before I met and married my husband. On our honeymoon, the sex was negligible at best. We have three kids and I fantasize about having a threesome with a female and a male. I masturbate 3x a day every day of the week. I haven't cheated and hope to never make that choice. However, I get propositioned by men often and some women, and one day, I may decide to just do it. I feel resentment toward DH for not being more a man (in bed).


Why did you keep reproducing with this guy?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 21:21     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
I have to wonder if these men are gay.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 21:05     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Same problem with me. I LOVE sex, and I used to have sex all the time before I met and married my husband. On our honeymoon, the sex was negligible at best. We have three kids and I fantasize about having a threesome with a female and a male. I masturbate 3x a day every day of the week. I haven't cheated and hope to never make that choice. However, I get propositioned by men often and some women, and one day, I may decide to just do it. I feel resentment toward DH for not being more a man (in bed).
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 20:35     Subject: Re:Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
No. I had to resort to having a boyfriend on the side. Sorry. My now X was in denial that A) his sex drive was objectively low and too low for me, specifically and B) that it was a divorce-worthy problem. We've been separated/divorced almost 7 years and he's not had a serious relationship yet.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 19:16     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
See a doctor and find a sex therapist.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 18:38     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
^^yes, there is a lot of that, but in the end I didn't get married to do it with myself or a machine. I think it's only fair we do it more often.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 16:13     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Anonymous wrote:We have young kids and are stressed--having an O helps me release the tension, but idk why DH just isn't interested.

Wank?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:53     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Anonymous wrote:14:11 PP, gosh glad I'm not alone. Here I am in my sexual prime, ready to be adventurous and do the things lots of DHs would like, only mine has no interest. If I cheat, I assume we get divorced (and anyway, the idea of doing it with a stranger isn't appealing and the sneaking around would be too stressful) and I risk losing 24/7 access to the kids.

I've scheduled a doctor's appointment, so we will see how it goes. Hesitant about low T diagnosis and meds as they have their own risk factors. Wish DH would exercise regularly as that would boost T levels and can stimulate sex drive. Of course, no interest and no effort on his part. Grateful for many things in my life, but when it comes to my marriage, I just think FML. been so depressed all day after another unproductive conversation and rejection last night.

Am I really doomed to celibacy as a vibrant woman in my sexual prime?



If he is refusing to address the problem, ask him for an open marriage. Intimacy is expected in a marriage and spouses need to cimpromise. When ine is always compromising, then it becomes a problem. His ego is preventing hi.from getting help. Or he is cheating. You should ask if he is cheating.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:48     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Anonymous wrote:Something is not right. Tell him to see a doctor about his lethargy and lack of drive. Could he be gay? Could he be having an affair?


+1000
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:35     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
14:11 PP, gosh glad I'm not alone. Here I am in my sexual prime, ready to be adventurous and do the things lots of DHs would like, only mine has no interest. If I cheat, I assume we get divorced (and anyway, the idea of doing it with a stranger isn't appealing and the sneaking around would be too stressful) and I risk losing 24/7 access to the kids.

I've scheduled a doctor's appointment, so we will see how it goes. Hesitant about low T diagnosis and meds as they have their own risk factors. Wish DH would exercise regularly as that would boost T levels and can stimulate sex drive. Of course, no interest and no effort on his part. Grateful for many things in my life, but when it comes to my marriage, I just think FML. been so depressed all day after another unproductive conversation and rejection last night.

Am I really doomed to celibacy as a vibrant woman in my sexual prime?

Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:16     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Listen to the NPR story about low testosterone diagnoses before you go that route.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 14:11     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
OP, I am in virtually the exact same situation (lots of discussion, no willingness to get a physical exam or talk to a doctor, etc...)

I deeply ove my husband, and I believe he genuinely loves me. And neither of us will do anything to break up our family. But part of me is dying and I am really mourning the loss of a love life.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2014 00:12     Subject: Sexless Marriage DWs Success Stories?
Buy a Sybian.