I'm so sorry, OP. I wish I could give you a hug through the internet. I went through something similar, although single my mom was single, and I lived far away at the time. You will not regret dropping everything and being there for whatever time you have left with your mom. I had only a couple of weeks with my mom, but I got on a flight the morning after I found out and never looked back. We were actually in the process of moving, and it was the last time I saw many of my co-workers and friends. I didn't regret it for even a moment. Same advice for your brother.

Does your mom have a will, Power of Attorney, funeral plans? It's hard to think about it, but a family friend, who is also a lawyer, drew up things for us quickly, while my mom was still lucid, and I am forever grateful. Some things will be easier since she is married, but some may be complicated by it being a second marriage. My mom wasn't even 60, so she had done basically nothing in advance.

If your mom's physician hasn't recommended it already, ask about hospice care. We only had them for a couple of days, but they were angels sent to a very dark place in our lives. They helped us with pain management and just the confidence that we were doing the best we could.

No more advice for now. Just hugs. I'm sorry.

I'm so sorry, hang in there!

Spend time with her - best DCUM advice I ever received and took

I am so sorry OP. My father in law had leukemia (a different kind) for 11 years. Hugs to you.

OP - I'm the one with the older friend with leukemia. Give that clinic in Texas a call - I don't know the difference between myelogenous leukemia and myelofibrous leukemia, but the clinic has been a Godsend to my elderly friend.

I'm very sorry, OP.

Hi guys. OP here. Just checked back. Thank you for the kind words and hopeful suggestions. It's acute myelogenous leukemia. I'm waiting to hear about how she wants to proceed. I have booked plane tickets I may need to change.

I am so sorry, OP. I hope you are able to spend as much time with your Mom as you would like. (((hugs)))

My Dad was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer when he had no idea he was sick. Doctors gave him 18 months and he died in 4 weeks. Do not put off anything. He lived 8 hours away and I did visit him 3 days for each of the 4 weeks he lived knowing he had cancer but how I wished that I could have that time back and just take off the entire time. Really sorry, it is so hard. It has been a couple years now but I am teary now just thinking of it.

I am sorry. I just went through this in Feb/Mar. It stinks. At this point the goal may be comfort. Be kind to yourself. Hugs.

10 years since we lost her and I still remember the day we got the diagnosis-- 9 months before.

I am so sorry OP. Life will go on. Not the same but it will. Hold her. Hold her tight. And be very good to yourself and the ones who love her.

Thoughts, prayers, and hugs. So sorry. A big hug for your dc too.

21:53 back. OP does your mother have myelofibrosis? My friend has it and was given a dire expectation of life but she found this clinic in Texas which has given her several more years of life. MD Anderson, Cancer Center, University of Texas, 1515 Holcomb, Houston Texas 77210.

Sorry OP, cherish the moments and rediscover memories. Hugs.

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry. I lost my mother to cancer suddenly, too. It is hard, but you will be happy that you can spend some time with her.

They dont want to us to take it so hard. Think like a mother, and it will help you get through. It helped me, even though it was 12 years before I became a mother myself. What would I want my child to do if I were the one who was sick? Love me, but seize your own life. Dont lose sight of your own life. Its what she wants. Love her and support. her.

Hugs to you, OP.