Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people (men especially) cheat on many women and then turn a corner and straighten up. Either they are ready to "settle down" or they've matured or they find someone they just don't want to mess around on. MANY married men have cheated in previous relationships, ages 18-28 especially are no ones dignified years!

you had me until "men especially." The women sampled here are equally guilty. Stop playing "victim women" and spell out the truth. The cheating is done by both genders and pretty damn equally. Men may get caught more, but women are doing it and having other men's kids.

Apparently about 10% of the time. Imagine coming home to a family every day and a wife KNOWING that the child you love as your own is not your child.

If you are raising the kid and love him or her, he or she IS your child.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP why would you feel sorry for her when you don't know anything about the nature of their relationship? Just because YOUR relationship with Mr. Ex wasn't what you had hoped that doesn't mean her relationship with him is destined to be equally disappointing.

This. I know a now reformed cheater. It happens.

Yeah, and I let Michael Vick walk my dogs.

you are a bitter Betty (or Bob)

Yes I am. It's a result of feeling crushed and heartbroken.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP why would you feel sorry for her when you don't know anything about the nature of their relationship? Just because YOUR relationship with Mr. Ex wasn't what you had hoped that doesn't mean her relationship with him is destined to be equally disappointing.

This. I know a now reformed cheater. It happens.

Yeah, and I let Michael Vick walk my dogs.

you are a bitter Betty (or Bob)

Anonymous wrote:OP why would you feel sorry for her when you don't know anything about the nature of their relationship? Just because YOUR relationship with Mr. Ex wasn't what you had hoped that doesn't mean her relationship with him is destined to be equally disappointing.

Exactly. I cheated on just about every man I dated. When I met my now husband I was in a relationship. I have never considered or cheated or on my DH and it has been 15years. Before him, I had just never met someone worth settling down with. That is how I knew he was The One. He meets all of my needs.

Butt out.

I know how you feel OP, but honestly it's not our duty to save the world even though I sometimes feel an obligation to do so. I sometimes wish there had been someone looking out for me and letting me know one of my boyfriend's was a cheater so I could protect my heart before he broke it in half. But the question is...Would I have listened to her?? Because love is blind after all.

Some men change, while others do not.

I say move on and do not worry about him + his new relationship.
Focus on your own life now and understand that he is HER problem now, he is no longer yours thank goodness.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people (men especially) cheat on many women and then turn a corner and straighten up. Either they are ready to "settle down" or they've matured or they find someone they just don't want to mess around on. MANY married men have cheated in previous relationships, ages 18-28 especially are no ones dignified years!

you had me until "men especially." The women sampled here are equally guilty. Stop playing "victim women" and spell out the truth. The cheating is done by both genders and pretty damn equally. Men may get caught more, but women are doing it and having other men's kids.

Apparently about 10% of the time. Imagine coming home to a family every day and a wife KNOWING that the child you love as your own is not your child.

Back up your stats. They're meaningless without a citation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP why would you feel sorry for her when you don't know anything about the nature of their relationship? Just because YOUR relationship with Mr. Ex wasn't what you had hoped that doesn't mean her relationship with him is destined to be equally disappointing.

This. I know a now reformed cheater. It happens.

Yeah, and I let Michael Vick walk my dogs.