Idk, I've met several guys here on dcum who are in their fifties and are long-time divorcees. They just never wanted to remarry. Whereas, it sounds like a lot of women divorcees are looking for another marriage, or at least LTR. I think in the older crowd there might be a greater disparity between what kind of relationship they want.

You know, when you're young you expect that the other person will want to get married and have kids. But once you've got the kids, why go through the whole marriage thing again?

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Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

Written by a man...

sure, but how is this not the truth??

I'm a relatively attractive woman (single mom) in my 30s and I've found it difficult to find anything more than men interested in casual sex. Yes, finding a man online is easy - finding a man who is interested in an actual relationship, has been challenging. And as a single mom, finding time to actually go on dates has also been a logistical challenge. Perhaps if I had time to go on multiple dates each week, it would be easier to find someone...

Men suffer from quantity, women from quality. There are at least 2-3 times as many men as women in bars and online. But you have to go through a few to find someone decent who is open to the possibility of getting a relationship going. On the other hand, if a reasonably attractive guy meets five women, chances are that three of them will have their heads on straight and can actually have an intelligent conversation.

DH's male coworker, late 30's, with 50% custody of 3 kids age 5 and under, has dated no fewer than three woman (all divorcees) in the 6 months he's been divorced. All friend-of-friend type thing.

However, he is a great guy, who's wife had a midlife crisis. He did not seek the divorce.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

Written by a man...

sure, but how is this not the truth??

I'm a relatively attractive woman (single mom) in my 30s and I've found it difficult to find anything more than men interested in casual sex. Yes, finding a man online is easy - finding a man who is interested in an actual relationship, has been challenging. And as a single mom, finding time to actually go on dates has also been a logistical challenge. Perhaps if I had time to go on multiple dates each week, it would be easier to find someone...

Anonymous wrote:Where are the single dads at drop off and spring events. I have never seen one, and I always look. I never see single men anywhere unless they are young.

well at my DD's school the moms know I'm a single dad and they regularly strike up conversations with me. Though most who do are married and are just being friendly but they know I'm divorced. I have caught a couple of single moms looking or stealing glances when we're picking up kids from the extended day program after school. and then there's the spring fair at school (ours is this weekend). As I'm ethnic and just look different from 98% of community I stick out for a few reasons.

Where are the single dads at drop off and spring events. I have never seen one, and I always look. I never see single men anywhere unless they are young.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

Written by a man...

sure, but how is this not the truth??

It's true if she's of better than average attractiveness. it's not true if she's not.

expectations need to be commensurate with degree of attractiveness. it's when expectations and desires are wildly off base that women end up so frustrated and racked with despondency.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

Written by a man...

sure, but how is this not the truth??

It's true if she's of better than average attractiveness. it's not true if she's not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

Written by a man...

sure, but how is this not the truth??

Anonymous wrote:Obviously, your best bet will be with guys who understand your situation - divorced guys with kids. Maybe meeting them through kids' activities.

+1 and there are plenty of men in their 40s who would eagerly date a single mom in the same age range - easy to spot a single dad at school drop-off/pick up, sporting/school events, etc. just be approachable and there's absolutely nothing wrong with a women who initiates a simple conversation.

By looking at some of the comments posted on this thread, I can't understand if expectations are skewed or some women have just had horrible experiences - which may be very true but then their screening process (we all do it) seems to be seriously malfunctioning.

Obviously, your best bet will be with guys who understand your situation - divorced guys with kids. Maybe meeting them through kids' activities.

Anonymous wrote:It is always easy anywhere for women to meet men. Let's be serious here. If you go online, you will find them.

Written by a man...

Anonymous wrote:This is depressing

For me dating was always depressing, at any age. I hate the flirting and "auditioning" and much prefer actually having a relationship that trying to find one. Sad but true.

This is depressing

Anonymous wrote:42 single mom with full custody of 5 yr old. Only way to meet men is on line, i never see single guys on the street, in stores. evenryone is married. Very hard to meet decent people who don't just want to fool around. Lots of hidden issues with guys, there was a reason for their divorce. Many divorced guys under 45 want younger, no more than mid30s. Or they want kids,n which is not happening with me. How you look is extremely important. Lots of single women in this area and any decent guy can take his pick, and they do. Good luck, SLIM PICKINS

It's tough on everyone. Dating is hard because people have their guard up and always feel like they are auditioning.