Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents hand their young children valuable items like car keys, wallets and cell phones and then are upset when the kid loses or damages them.

+1

Same here - and, how is it your DH's fault that it ended in the tub? Why wouldn't he think it was a toy if you gave it to her to play with?

People who respond this way probably don't have kids or have older kids. When your kid is screaming her head off, you try to distract her. The best toys are the things that are not toys.

I tried to grab it back from her, but we were all freaking out and my husband told me to go. I don't mind it getting lost or beat up. But he could have intervened before it ended up in the water.

Um, no. I have 2.5 yo twins and no I don't give them keys, wallet, etc. I have two old empty gift cards in my wallet so that when they scream for credit cards, they get "their" cards. I also keep extra expired coupons in my wallet so that if they are screaming, I have "paper" to give them. If I don't have any of these things, no they don't get anything that I'm not willing to have dropped, slobbered on, eaten, thrown, or stood on. I have also taught my kids that if I don't have distractions then screaming isn't going to help. They can calm down and we can sing a song or I will find them something as soon as I can, but that screaming isn't an option.

You both did something stupid that neither of you should have done and you should both share the blame. Trying to pin the blame solely on him when you were the one who gave her the wallet is really divisive (me vs him attitude and playing the "I'm a better parent game") and pretty low.

They need to create a special subject forum for these types of posts.

People who reside on a different planet.

Am I the only person who saw this thread title and assumed it belonged in the explicit forum?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents hand their young children valuable items like car keys, wallets and cell phones and then are upset when the kid loses or damages them.

+1

Same here - and, how is it your DH's fault that it ended in the tub? Why wouldn't he think it was a toy if you gave it to her to play with?

People who respond this way probably don't have kids or have older kids. When your kid is screaming her head off, you try to distract her.

The best toys are the things that are not toys.

I tried to grab it back from her, but we were all freaking out and my husband told me to go. I don't mind it getting lost or beat up. But he could have intervened before it ended up in the water.

LOL! Let me guess, you only have one kid. Some people with only one kid learn this but if you've got more than one, you have to learn to ignore the screaming. You also learn quickly not to give your kid things you value.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents hand their young children valuable items like car keys, wallets and cell phones and then are upset when the kid loses or damages them.

+1

Same here - and, how is it your DH's fault that it ended in the tub? Why wouldn't he think it was a toy if you gave it to her to play with?

People who respond this way probably don't have kids or have older kids. When your kid is screaming her head off, you try to distract her. The best toys are the things that are not toys.

I tried to grab it back from her, but we were all freaking out and my husband told me to go. I don't mind it getting lost or beat up. But he could have intervened before it ended up in the water.

No, we have kids, we just don't do this.

It can be replaced, correct? Aren't there more important things to bitch about?

So you accept no responsibility and just want to complain about your husband OP?

We have twin toddlers. All kinds of things happen in a pinch, or at stressful moments, both I and my husband have done things to keep the peace that were less than ideal. We both understand how that can happen (like when everyone is freaking out and one parent just takes charge) and we DO NOT HOLD IT AGAINST OURSELVES OR EACH OTHER.

You're a team. You need to be on his side, not blaming him for something so stupid as this.

Also, it sounds like everyone was hugely stressed out. So let it go. FIve years, a year, hell - even a week from now, the wet wallet just won't matter at all but you and your husband having each other's back is pretty important.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents hand their young children valuable items like car keys, wallets and cell phones and then are upset when the kid loses or damages them.

+1

Same here - and, how is it your DH's fault that it ended in the tub? Why wouldn't he think it was a toy if you gave it to her to play with?

People who respond this way probably don't have kids or have older kids. When your kid is screaming her head off, you try to distract her. The best toys are the things that are not toys.

I tried to grab it back from her, but we were all freaking out and my husband told me to go. I don't mind it getting lost or beat up. But he could have intervened before it ended up in the water.

If you're going to micromanage your husband's parenting you probably shouldn't take a job that requires you to sleep in daylight and work at midnight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents hand their young children valuable items like car keys, wallets and cell phones and then are upset when the kid loses or damages them.

+1

Same here - and, how is it your DH's fault that it ended in the tub? Why wouldn't he think it was a toy if you gave it to her to play with?

People who respond this way probably don't have kids or have older kids. When your kid is screaming her head off, you try to distract her. The best toys are the things that are not toys.

I tried to grab it back from her, but we were all freaking out and my husband told me to go. I don't mind it getting lost or beat up. But he could have intervened before it ended up in the water.

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Anonymous wrote:So DH got kid out of the car, gave her a bath, and did bedtime while you went straight to bed from the car? Sign me up.

Yep.

Sure it would have been nice if your husband had thought to question the "toy" you'd given her, but with toddler/bath/bedtime you have to let him off the hook. Good lesson for you.

It was 630pm, a 4pm errand ran way over. I was supposed to be in bed by 5pm. I had to wake up at 12am to go to work for the first time at a new job.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents hand their young children valuable items like car keys, wallets and cell phones and then are upset when the kid loses or damages them.

+1

Same here - and, how is it your DH's fault that it ended in the tub? Why wouldn't he think it was a toy if you gave it to her to play with?

Anonymous wrote:So DH got kid out of the car, gave her a bath, and did bedtime while you went straight to bed from the car? Sign me up.

Yep.

Sure it would have been nice if your husband had thought to question the "toy" you'd given her, but with toddler/bath/bedtime you have to let him off the hook. Good lesson for you.

Maybe your DH was pissed bc you just HAD to go to bed immediately.