Not long, she's a smoking hot babe.

six months

Anonymous wrote:2 years. The sooner the better if he marries someone who will function like a good mother to my children. They need a mom.

+1 - My husband and I have had a conversation about this. He knows if i die, I want him to find a new love, a new life when he is ready and I know he would have our children's best interest in mind.

IDK, but NEVER for me.

13:12 here. I also don't know how long it would take me to remarry if something happened to my husband.

Neither of us were every very interested in marriage for the sake of marriage. So I imagine it would all depend on if/when we met someone we really liked.

Before we started dating, both of us were fine with the prospect of never marrying. Even after we were serious, we never felt a rush to get married.

I don't know.

2 years. The sooner the better if he marries someone who will function like a good mother to my children. They need a mom.

Sometimes they marry someone they were already having a reltionship with.

A dear friend died of cancer years ago, leaving her young widower and small children. Those kids needed his attention constantly - they were afraid for him every time he wasn't with them. He spent the next two years taking care of their needs, and making sure that they felt safe. Once they had all found their groove as a family again, he met a very nice widow with no kids. The four of them are now a lovely family, and all four of them are thriving.

It seems to me that that approach makes sense. The children who have lost a parent should be the survivor's top priority. I don't know that there is a particular time table on that, because every family is different.

I would much rather my husband remarry a nice woman relatively quickly and be in a stable marriage than subject himself and esp our kids to years of dating different women and the drama that could entail.

I had a relative, a man, who remarried fairly quickly after the death of his wife, like 1-2 years or something. I think he just needed a woman, he needed someone to cook, run the house, etc. He was a high-level executive. I'm sure he didn't want to be alone.

His wife had been dying for a long time so he knew it was coming and had time to prepare. I think for spouses of people who die suddenly it might take them longer. Everyone is different though.

My spouse would be distraught. I have to forcibly tell him look, you would have to remarry, here's how to meet a girl, find a good woman to raise my kids.

Anonymous wrote:Chilren do not recover in a year (or ever). They need their sole surviving parent's undivided attention. Not baby sitters while dad is in Vegas.

I am the poster who said a friend died and her husband remarried within 2 years. They had 2 small children together. And the new wife is a huge blessing for them. She is a wonderful step-mother and they are very lucky to have her. It makes me sad for them that they would have to do without a mother figure from such a young age. These situations and individual and complicated. I would refrain from judging.

My ex-husband started dating 3 months after we separated (so did I, though) if I had died instead of divorcing him, I suspect that he would have waited a little bit longer, if only because he would have sole custody of our daughter and would have less free time. I also think that he might be sadder if I died and might need more time to process.

I am remarried, and if I died today, I honestly do not believe that DH would remarry, ever. If he died today, I would not remarry either. We're it for each other, as cheesy as that sounds.

Anonymous wrote:If I die I do not want my DH to remarry till the time the kids are settled. I do want him to have tons of sex though and he can have multiple girlfriends etc.I have asked him to go to Vegas and party.

If he gets married I will haunt him. He has assured me that covering the entire house with tinfoil will prevent me from seeing what he is up to or haunting him.

He also asked me if he could try out Vegas and multiple gfs now...while I am still alive ...so that he can report back to me as how distasteful this is to him.

heh. You and I are on the same page.

I told mine to have all the girlfriends he wants, but wait until the kids are grown to install a new woman in the house.

His family would fix him up with someone right away, if I dropped dead. They hate that I'm not from their country and culture.

Anonymous wrote:I imagine he would remarry fairly quickly, easily within 2 years. We're younger, our child is young, he would/does want more children and most men I've known who lost their wives have remarried very quickly.

On the other hand, I am done. I can't see myself ever having interest in putting in the effort to date and build a relationship again.

Sad, hope he put the welfare of your child first. The new wife is unlikely to be fair.