I think I would be a little hurt, but would try not to let it get in the way of enjoying the wedding.

Not at all.

You will still have an important roll as your brother's sister. And I would rather hang out with my family that have all kinds of duties that weekend.

Nope, I wouldn't be upset. And if my kids were included, then all the more reason to be flattered and not the least bit bothered by your/my level of involvement.

People who get worked up about this kind of stuff waste too much energy (theirs and the family's) on things that don't matter in the long run.

I have stage fright - I really wouldn't want to be asked to read...I hope that's not awful of me .

Not at all. My SIL has been in 10-15 weddings in the last 5 years including mine. She will not be able to have all of those people in her wedding. DH and I will likely not even get a reading and that's fine. Now if our son, her only nephew, is not a ring bearer, I would be a little sad.

No. It's her day and I would be thrilled for her.

I *might* be hurt if I was the only SIL out of a number of SILs who was excluded. But not if there was a reason for it. Mostly, I would just be relieved. As others have said, I'm fine to retire my bridesmaid days.

To the previous poster who was disappointed she was asked to be a reader rather than a bridesmaid, Get over it. Being a reader is a position of honor. It is actually my favorite role in the wedding, because then you can wear whatever dress you want.

Having your kids in the wedding is a way of including you and your husband in the wedding. They probably figure you two will have your hands full managing the kids.

I am the PP who was surprised/disappointed. I should say that I was not "upset", and I wouldn't even be disappointed now. And I will add given the new information that to be a bridesmaid while wrangling a junior bridesmaid and a flower girl would be way too much work.

I am the OP, thanks for all your responses. I don't feel bad about it actually. I am surprised that more than one person around me has commented that I SHOULD feel bad about it, so I was wondering if other people would. My 2 kids were asked to be in the wedding, junior BM, flower girl. My husband was not. He, as the brother of the bride, I really feel should of.

Nope.

Anonymous wrote:No. I would be relieved

+1!

I did feel bad. But got over it.

No. She was in your wedding to bring the families together. Now the families are already joined. Chances are you aren't an actual friends of hers. Better if you are not, really. Stay a sister-in-law.

Anonymous wrote:No. I would be relieved

This.

I wouldn't take it personally, OP. There can only be so many bridesmaids.