Anonymous wrote:Women over think EVERYTHING...
Geezus

Agree. There are no rules. Met my fiancé online, we had sex on the second date, he said I love you in the middle of sex, maybe a week later. I told him about a month later. We are in our 30's. When it's right, there are no rules or guidelines.

Women over think EVERYTHING...
Geezus

Call him a couple times the next day. First one, say you love him. Second one, say your mom can't wait to meet him.

I like what the PP said - "keep your own counsel until it matters". Enjoy him, be tender and affectionate but take your time - for your own sake as well as his. Just give the relationship a bit of time to evolve - it's still so new and you are still getting to know him, physically and emotionally. And if this is your first (and only) relationship besides your ex, having (good) sex for the first time can be very powerful and cloud your rational thinking. If the relationship is as good as you say it is, it will happen naturally. No need to rush.

6 weeks is ok to feel it but not to say it.

3-4 months seems like the minimum to really mean it.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you fuck him for the first time this weekend or something?

yes, how did you know? serious question.

Wait. What? It took 6 weeks for sex and you're mid-40s? And now you want an I love you?

Nothing wrong with waiting six weeks to have sex

At 45? Thanks, but no thanks. I'm not saying first date, but 6 weeks sounds like something out of "40 year old virgin". Then again, I've been married for 20 years, so I'm admittedly ignorant about dating and first time sex... To each their own.

I would just say "I like you" in a cute/sexy way. Definitely wait on the big L.

I waited a year to tell him, and then he said it. We had sex 2 months after our first date

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Anonymous wrote:Did you fuck him for the first time this weekend or something?

yes, how did you know? serious question.

Wait. What? It took 6 weeks for sex and you're mid-40s? And now you want an I love you?

Nothing wrong with waiting six weeks to have sex

Love is to be shared, right? What if he died tomorrow?

That said, I am going through something similar (and I'm the same age). I am SO GLAD I haven't said anything!

If it's mutual love, you'll have plenty of time to disclose, assuming he doesn't die first.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you fuck him for the first time this weekend or something?

yes, how did you know? serious question.

Wait. What? It took 6 weeks for sex and you're mid-40s? And now you want an I love you?

Anonymous wrote:I told my now wife of almost nine years that I loved her after 1 month. so there.

We're talking about general guidelines. Of course there are exceptions. You know that right?

two significant relationships - first at 6 months, second said at 4 month.
Too soon, relax.

I told my now wife of almost nine years that I loved her after 1 month. so there.