I would be annoyed at the parents - but I would let the kid come and as others have suggested just get them a different favor.

it's a kid's bday party, not a wedding. Come on, OP. Don't be such a jerk.

I would let the kids come. I am sure they are wanting to attend. I had a party in january where I expected 18 kids, and 23 came. I don't know why they came without rsvping at all, but luckily we had enough party favors since I always bring extra. It cost extra money, but I had originally told the venue 22, so that was fine. It was laser tag, so there was plenty of room for everyone.

Can you imagine the conversation? Sorry dd, you can't go to your best friends party. Why not mom? Larla's mom said I rsvp'ed after the deadline, so you can't go. You know I have been busy with a sick baby, and the evite ended up in my spam folder. I rsvp'ed as soon as I saw it when you told me about your friend's party. I'm sorry honey.

OP did put an RSVP date.

Op, RSVPing late is totally rude and asking if sibs can come already is rude, and asking after the RSVP deadline is so lame…

That being said, they're kids, and not responsible for their lame parents. I'd look at it as part of the cost of doing business (throwing a party). For future parties, always get extra favors because it will happen again.

I would allow the kids to come. And don't be snarky to the parents; just let it all roll off you. You of course, can be snarky with us because you are totally in the right, here! : )

That's why you write "RSVP BY" a certain date

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Anonymous wrote:If you want a response deadline, you need to put it in the invitation. It's not fair to guests who do respond and accept your invitation to tete ll them that they are too late, if you never told them there was a deadline in the first place. Yes, it's better to respond earlier, but I think it's better to err on the side of inclusion as a host.

The RSVP date was very clearly stated.

If there was a deadline stated, then I do think it's okay to tell people, "Oh, I'm so sorry, but I had to give the headcount to the venue by X. That's why I asked for responses by Y date."

No, it's not ok to say it's too late to RSVP. (Even though you would be thinking it, and are right.) You can't say it's too late, because then there will be long term stuff going on -- the other parents would prob. hold a grudge. But if you've run out of favors, just substitute something else and casually mention it.

Anonymous wrote:If you want a response deadline, you need to put it in the invitation. It's not fair to guests who do respond and accept your invitation to tete ll them that they are too late, if you never told them there was a deadline in the first place. Yes, it's better to respond earlier, but I think it's better to err on the side of inclusion as a host.

The RSVP date was very clearly stated.

If you want a response deadline, you need to put it in the invitation. It's not fair to guests who do respond and accept your invitation to tell them that they are too late, if you never told them there was a deadline in the first place. Yes, it's better to respond earlier, but I think it's better to err on the side of inclusion as a host.

Anonymous wrote:By the way grammatically "to RSVP" means to respond, not to confirm attendance. It does not infer positive or negative. You sentence needs to read "if any more people RSVP that they wish to attend" or something like that.

If you haven't said 'RSVP by..."-- I'm afraid the answer is no. I hate late rsvps too. I just grab some random favors and bag may be different than the ones the people RSVP timely receive.

Get different favors to accommodate the late acceptances. Put favors in individual bags with names on them so people don't see that they're different.

Say sure but there's a chance they may not get a favor as they have already been ordered. Your guests will be fine with this.

By the way grammatically "to RSVP" means to respond, not to confirm attendance. It does not infer positive or negative. You sentence needs to read "if any more people RSVP that they wish to attend" or something like that.

Just give them a different favor.