OP here. Thank you again very much to everyone for the suggestions and detailed info on the various beaches. It's really been very helpful. As of right now I think we're trying to decide between two rental houses - one on Holden Beach and the other on North Topsail Beach. The one on Holden is in a busier area where we could walk to things, whereas the one on North Topsail is further removed and quieter. Same price, similar sized houses, both have a pool (which somehow got added to the list of desirable features), but they have a different feel. It's a tough decision, as I think different family members may be looking for different things from their vacation, and as none of us vacation often we all want every aspect to be "ideal".

To me, the beach itself in North Topsail looks (from the photos) to be pretty and wider with more space to spread out even if there are others around... For those who know the areas, is this true, or would I be just as happy with the beach in Holden?