I'm with you, OP, and you aren't crazy. We didn't allow if from either grandma!

Whoa, whoa, whoa OP. Take these posters' reactions as a huge hint.... Your MIL must love you !!

Anonymous wrote:Face and hands are off limits. This is how germs spread. If she can't respect your wishes, she doesn't need to come around.

+1, grandmother or not.

Anonymous wrote:I'm always curious about the men who are married to people like OP (and lets be honest this isn't the only thing she's psycho over). Do they know what they are getting themselves into? Are they like this too? Are they the type of guy who is ok with a crazy wife? Just so many questions. Sometimes I look into my Uncle's eyes and see the deadness there from being married to my Aunt for so long.

I have a friend like that. She is really a very kind and loving person to those she deems worth it (but can be surprisingly vindictive to those she dislikes) but I suspect her DH married her because she is strikingly beautiful and he is shallow. Unfortunately for him, she has basically no sex drive and complains about how he's always hounding her for sex when she just had a baby (9 months ago) and how she can't wait to get pregnant again because then she won't have to have sex for at least a year.

Face and hands are off limits. This is how germs spread. If she can't respect your wishes, she doesn't need to come around.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess it's okay to disregard the parents wishes and do whatever you want to someone else's child just because you think it's nonsense.

Someone else's child? The baby is the child of the woman's (Grandma) son. Get over yourself and lose the selfish attitude. This is not how family are made. Let your kid have the chance to bond with other relatives. It will only enrich his life.

Also, remember that not many kids are lucky to have grandparents. Not everyone is that lucky to be loved unconditionally by someone. Give full access to your relatives and they will be in your child's corner for ever.

The grandmother may be family but she doesn't have the right to go against the parents wishes. You can express love without kissing the baby's face like that. I personally would not like it either.

Well if you think you're going toile the behavior of everyone important to your kids you are sadly mistaken. Yes, you're one if the parents. No, you don't get to decide the details of how people interact with your kids. You owe your kids a healthy relationship with their grandparents. So, suck it up, don't be so ridiculously controlling, and get over it.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess it's okay to disregard the parents wishes and do whatever you want to someone else's child just because you think it's nonsense.

Someone else's child? The baby is the child of the woman's (Grandma) son. Get over yourself and lose the selfish attitude. This is not how family are made. Let your kid have the chance to bond with other relatives. It will only enrich his life.

Also, remember that not many kids are lucky to have grandparents. Not everyone is that lucky to be loved unconditionally by someone. Give full access to your relatives and they will be in your child's corner for ever.

The grandmother may be family but she doesn't have the right to go against the parents wishes. You can express love without kissing the baby's face like that. I personally would not like it either.

Really, OP, your MIL is fine. It's hard not to sound condescending in saying this, but you seem really, really off kilter. I'm sure I was the same when our kids were you ger and I do t mean to sound dismissive. Really, though, just be happy your child is so loved that a grandma can't help but kiss. These are the problems you want to have. I'm guessing it really sucks to hear this from so many posters and I'm sorry. I really think you should get yourself some sleep, try to relax and give a call to a girlfriend.

Which grandma can resist these cheeks?

Sometimes people also want to nibble at newborns. They are just so delicious, you just want to gobble them. nom-nom!

Anonymous wrote:I guess it's okay to disregard the parents wishes and do whatever you want to someone else's child just because you think it's nonsense.

Someone else's child? The baby is the child of the woman's (Grandma) son. Get over yourself and lose the selfish attitude. This is not how family are made. Let your kid have the chance to bond with other relatives. It will only enrich his life.

Also, remember that not many kids are lucky to have grandparents. Not everyone is that lucky to be loved unconditionally by someone. Give full access to your relatives and they will be in your child's corner for ever.

I guess it's okay to disregard the parents wishes and do whatever you want to someone else's child just because you think it's nonsense.

Anonymous wrote:Sweet, protective FTM: This is not the hill you want to die on. Trust me.

LOL!

It's okay, she's showing her love to her new grandchild. Its a blessing, not a curse. There will be many battles to fight and this one frankly just isn't worth it. If she were sick, that would be different. Breathe. Relax. And try to put your Mom in her place. Would it bother you so badly? I am a FTM and hated advice from my MIL and welcomed that same advice from my Mom. I had to take a look within. I suggest you do the same. Often times making a mountain out of an anthill is usually a result of underlying issues totally unrelated to what has you in a tissy. My suggestion is let it go

They are just so irresistible! Lighten up.