Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:41     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Also, it's one thing to be respectful of someone's accomplishment/event/news. It's another to have to maintain silence and avoid sharing your own happy thoughts because of some silly notion of "stealing thunder".
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:40     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like the type of woman who throws herself birthday dinners and expects others to pay, probably had a big expensive bachelorette party, expected a push gift, gossips incessantly, has hired a professional photographer for an engagement photoshoot, and has "live, laugh, love" hanging on a sponge painted wall somewhere in your house. Congrats on the baby, but get over yourself.


Well, if I were to throw myself a big birthday dinner, is it wrong for me to expect that the attention would be on ME? Or should I just suck it up when one of the guests chooses to announce her impressive job promotion - thus stealing my thunder? If my fiance and I have an engagement party, should we simply expect another (more beautiful!) couple to stand up and announce their engagement, too?

It all gets so very ridiculous.

Having a birthday? Not really an accomplishment. Just an excuse for a party, which is fine.

Getting a job promotion or something? Adult accomplishment.

Seriously? People need to learn to live life and enjoy the moments they're in, rather than trying to control and plan everything so much that there is no flexibility or room for spontaneity.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:34     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like the type of woman who throws herself birthday dinners and expects others to pay, probably had a big expensive bachelorette party, expected a push gift, gossips incessantly, has hired a professional photographer for an engagement photoshoot, and has "live, laugh, love" hanging on a sponge painted wall somewhere in your house. Congrats on the baby, but get over yourself.


Well, if I were to throw myself a big birthday dinner, is it wrong for me to expect that the attention would be on ME? Or should I just suck it up when one of the guests chooses to announce her impressive job promotion - thus stealing my thunder? If my fiance and I have an engagement party, should we simply expect another (more beautiful!) couple to stand up and announce their engagement, too?

It all gets so very ridiculous.

Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:15     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
OP, you sound like the type of woman who throws herself birthday dinners and expects others to pay, probably had a big expensive bachelorette party, expected a push gift, gossips incessantly, has hired a professional photographer for an engagement photoshoot, and has "live, laugh, love" hanging on a sponge painted wall somewhere in your house. Congrats on the baby, but get over yourself.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:13     Subject: Re:SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
My SIL did this. She was four or five weeks pregnant. I was annoyed. I gave a hearty congratulations and kept my feelings to myself.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:13     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:If she is really a spotlight stealer, then you 2 deserve each other.


Depends. If Op is a "This is MY show and the focus is on ME!!" type - yes, that's obnoxious. Maybe Op and her SIL are both spotlight hogs...hard to say without knowing if there is a pattern there.

Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:08     Subject: Re:SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:I'd be delighted! What fun for my child to have a cousin so close in age. And how natural that in her excitement about your child's arrival she shared her news.

Double congratulations!

Me too, and this is also why I might make a similar announcement, although "announcements" are not quite my style. Best of luck in learning to be a (mature) parent.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 07:04     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
If she is really a spotlight stealer, then you 2 deserve each other.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 06:42     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:Is she a spotlight stealer to begin with? Some people are like that...can't stand to have the focus on someone else. Must always horn in somehow and refocus the attention on themselves.

If she has a history of this sort of thing, I might be annoyed. But if that isn't her SOP, I would just be happy for her - two new babies in the family how awesome!


Or if you don't like your SIL, that is another reason you might be upset. Do you have a good relationship with her otherwise? Is this DH's sister or your brother's wife?

Don't worry, the focus is going to still be on your baby for some time.

And the hormone crash after giving birth is a b****. Try to let it go, or at least revisit in your mind down the road.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 06:39     Subject: Re:SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
It sounds to me like she intentionally waited until after you had your baby so that she wouldn't steal your moment. She is probobly super excited!
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 06:29     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Is she a spotlight stealer to begin with? Some people are like that...can't stand to have the focus on someone else. Must always horn in somehow and refocus the attention on themselves.

If she has a history of this sort of thing, I might be annoyed. But if that isn't her SOP, I would just be happy for her - two new babies in the family how awesome!
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 06:26     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:The world doesn't stop because you had a child. He timing sucks, but she probably has been bursting at the seams to tell people. Move on and focus on your baby.... Who will soon have a cousin / future play mate in the family.
I agree with most of your post, but why do you feel "her timing sucks"? What has she done wrong?
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 06:23     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:Actually even before congratulating us for the birth of our first child.

How would you feel?


Why is this a big deal?

b/c you're no longer special?

You're just as bad for competing.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 05:56     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
Anonymous wrote:The world doesn't stop because you had a child. He timing sucks, but she probably has been bursting at the seams to tell people. Move on and focus on your baby.... Who will soon have a cousin / future play mate in the family.


+1
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2014 05:53     Subject: SIL announced her pregnancy just a few hours after DC's birth
I'd be excited.