Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:53
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Anonymous wrote:This is horrible! How does she treat the children?
Some better than others.
By the way, for the person who asked for the name of the school (sorry, I just saw that post now), I don't feel comfortable giving the name of the school, however I can tell you that it's located in Chicago.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:41
Subject: Re:My boss called me a pig.
What the hell is that suppose to mean?Anonymous wrote:Is she black ?
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:37
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
This is horrible! How does she treat the children?
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:35
Subject: Re:My boss called me a pig.
Anonymous wrote:Is she black ?
No, but why should that matter?
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:27
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:HR Bitch here: Your boss was completely out of line. You would have been well within your rights (personally and professionally) to say, "I'm sorry. Did my boss REALLY just call her subordinate a derogatory name?!"
OP, do you think she was kidding? If so, I'd let that time go. Let that be her "freebie." If she does it again though, you need to throw what she's doing in her face. "That is the SECOND time you are calling your subordinate a derogatory name. You may be kidding, but this is totally unacceptable and you have to stop."
This is the type of situation where I encourage people to keep a list of dates, times, witnesses, exact quotes, etc. Oh, and whether or not you're overweight is completely irrelevant.
I would not let it go, first time or not. I think that's horrible advice to tell someone getting picked on at a work place, to let that be her freebie. If I called you, you being HR, would you tell me to let it go and let that be her one screw up?
No, because if it bothered you so much that you came to HR about it, then that in and of itself says something about the intensity of the situation. Now that OP has added in more information, I really hope she DOES take all of that in writing, to her boss's supervisor.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:25
Subject: Re:My boss called me a pig.
Is she black ?
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:23
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Anonymous wrote:Op here: this isn't the first time she's made a degrading statement toward me, but it is the first time she's commented on my weight/eating habits.
A while ago, a mother had asked if she thought I'd be interested in babysitting for their family. When the parent came in she said within earshot of me (we were all in the classroom) "no, I wouldn't ask her. She needs a babysitter for herself".
Last week, someone made a comment to me along the lines of "well aren't you special" (I got to leave early that night because all my kids left already) to which my boss said "oh yeah, she's special, but not the kind you're thinking".
Another teacher in my class has noticed this as well and always comments to me that this person seems to be picking solely on me, and that she wouldn't dare do it to someone else.
Document, document, document!
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:22
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Op here: this isn't the first time she's made a degrading statement toward me, but it is the first time she's commented on my weight/eating habits.
A while ago, a mother had asked if she thought I'd be interested in babysitting for their family. When the parent came in she said within earshot of me (we were all in the classroom) "no, I wouldn't ask her. She needs a babysitter for herself".
Last week, someone made a comment to me along the lines of "well aren't you special" (I got to leave early that night because all my kids left already) to which my boss said "oh yeah, she's special, but not the kind you're thinking".
Another teacher in my class has noticed this as well and always comments to me that this person seems to be picking solely on me, and that she wouldn't dare do it to someone else.
A while ago, a mother had asked if she thought I'd be interested in babysitting for their family. When the parent came in she said within earshot of me (we were all in the classroom) "no, I wouldn't ask her. She needs a babysitter for herself".
Last week, someone made a comment to me along the lines of "well aren't you special" (I got to leave early that night because all my kids left already) to which my boss said "oh yeah, she's special, but not the kind you're thinking".
Another teacher in my class has noticed this as well and always comments to me that this person seems to be picking solely on me, and that she wouldn't dare do it to someone else.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 11:01
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Sounds like a lawsuit. Start documenting everything.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 10:59
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Anonymous wrote:HR Bitch here: Your boss was completely out of line. You would have been well within your rights (personally and professionally) to say, "I'm sorry. Did my boss REALLY just call her subordinate a derogatory name?!"
OP, do you think she was kidding? If so, I'd let that time go. Let that be her "freebie." If she does it again though, you need to throw what she's doing in her face. "That is the SECOND time you are calling your subordinate a derogatory name. You may be kidding, but this is totally unacceptable and you have to stop."
This is the type of situation where I encourage people to keep a list of dates, times, witnesses, exact quotes, etc. Oh, and whether or not you're overweight is completely irrelevant.
I would not let it go, first time or not. I think that's horrible advice to tell someone getting picked on at a work place, to let that be her freebie. If I called you, you being HR, would you tell me to let it go and let that be her one screw up?
Anonymous
02/17/2014 10:51
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
Is she from a different culture. I've lived in several cultures and some will openly comment on your weight, how much you are eating, etc and they think nothing of it.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 10:46
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
How is your boss otherwise?
Anonymous
02/17/2014 10:44
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
HR Bitch here: Your boss was completely out of line. You would have been well within your rights (personally and professionally) to say, "I'm sorry. Did my boss REALLY just call her subordinate a derogatory name?!"
OP, do you think she was kidding? If so, I'd let that time go. Let that be her "freebie." If she does it again though, you need to throw what she's doing in her face. "That is the SECOND time you are calling your subordinate a derogatory name. You may be kidding, but this is totally unacceptable and you have to stop."
This is the type of situation where I encourage people to keep a list of dates, times, witnesses, exact quotes, etc. Oh, and whether or not you're overweight is completely irrelevant.
OP, do you think she was kidding? If so, I'd let that time go. Let that be her "freebie." If she does it again though, you need to throw what she's doing in her face. "That is the SECOND time you are calling your subordinate a derogatory name. You may be kidding, but this is totally unacceptable and you have to stop."
This is the type of situation where I encourage people to keep a list of dates, times, witnesses, exact quotes, etc. Oh, and whether or not you're overweight is completely irrelevant.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 10:37
Subject: My boss called me a pig.
What difference does that make? Keep your comments to yourself. And, no, I'm not overweight.Anonymous wrote:Are you overweight? Skinny people can get away with eating a lot, but overweight people get judged when they are eating.
OP could've easily come back with a comment about supervisor's facial wrinkles, old-fashioned clothes, rats nest for hair, etc. Get my point? Sometimes people just need to be seen and not heard.
Anonymous
02/17/2014 10:00
Subject: Re:My boss called me a pig.
Please share the name of this preschool!!!!
Calling names is never acceptable. My mother has always done this to my father and I and cannot understand that it is inappropriate. That is why I hardly ever visit.
You should get together with all the employees and jointly tell her she has to stop.