Anonymous
Post 02/16/2014 09:53     Subject: 6 year old boys
As PP noted, there are specific physical responses to foods that result in allergic reactions that can lead to death. There are likely food sensitivities that are related to foods that can cause behavioral changes, sugar highs and sugar lows and are likely person specific. However they are not allergies. They will not lead to hives, itching, etc. and proceed to death.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2014 08:13     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.


I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.


Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.


When DH was a child, he said he had control issues. They were exasperated by food preservatives ... especially sodium nitrites which are found in hot dogs - something he ate often in school. It said after eating a hotdog, it feels like ants are crawling under his skin. When something little happens, he would just blow up!


okay....


I call BS too-I have three boys and two of my boys are like this, they are def. getting more mature w age. It is a maturity issue I believe. The oldest is now almost 11 and the other 8. My youngest is the sweetest, calm child... Try to help him control his emotions. I have found that ignoring outbursts and walking away helped. Say something like when you calm down and are ready to talk let me know. If you get mad, he will respond in kind so walk away and talk about the behavior later, just not in the midst of his tantrum.

Call BS all you want. You don't know every kid.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2014 07:19     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mine were not like that. They're all different but maybe he has an underlying issue like a food allergy.


I know you're trying to be helpful but this is not a food allergy issue.


Why not? I have suggested this to a few other moms of kids like this and it turned out to be correct. They can cause behavior problems.


When DH was a child, he said he had control issues. They were exasperated by food preservatives ... especially sodium nitrites which are found in hot dogs - something he ate often in school. It said after eating a hotdog, it feels like ants are crawling under his skin. When something little happens, he would just blow up!


okay....


I call BS too-I have three boys and two of my boys are like this, they are def. getting more mature w age. It is a maturity issue I believe. The oldest is now almost 11 and the other 8. My youngest is the sweetest, calm child... Try to help him control his emotions. I have found that ignoring outbursts and walking away helped. Say something like when you calm down and are ready to talk let me know. If you get mad, he will respond in kind so walk away and talk about the behavior later, just not in the midst of his tantrum.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 23:32     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:Keep working on it. Mine is much better at almost 7. One thing a counselor told me was make sure you never cave on boundaries or expectations. Even if it seems logical to you, it's not to them. And they will think they can push to get their way.


That's the TRUTH:

NEVER cave on boundaries or expectations,

no matter what.

Moreover, "pick your battles" is a lie.
Consistancy is a MUST, not an option.

Many of us are afraid of our kids,
and they know it.
Some of these kids are raging about it.
They are demanding respectable parenting,
and they rightfully deserve it.
The raging starts out as biting and kicking you.
If you continue to neglect firm boundaries
and immediate consequenses, it can get much worse.

Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 23:25     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 5 year old is going through a spell like this. I admit it is because we are not always the best at enforcing boundaries and we are working on this as parents. It's hard to be a parent when it's easier to let things go and take back your enforcements sometimes.

My child is biting me when very angry. She is not yet 5, but this is high time to stop it. Two incidents in the past two weeks mean we are stepping up the enforcement and punishment.

We have also noticed that on days when she has a lot of sugar her personality changes. Even if the sugar is in the morning, these mercurial ways last all day. Though she is approaching an age where she needs to know right from wrong on her own volition, it is on us to say no to sugar in our house and we have not been good about this.

I hear you, OP. Yesterday was a horrible day for me.


Food allergy. What kind of sugary foods is she eating that cause this?

NP. You think it matters much if it's a donut or Fruit Loops? White sugar is white sugar, and none of it is actually "good" for children.


Sugar may not be good for kids but I was trying to find out what could be causing an allergic reaction. So yes, it matters if it's a donut or fruit loops. Many kids have allergic reactions to certain food additives and dyes, but not others.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 23:23     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:If it was a food allergy you would know. An allergy activates the histamine system and you would have an allergic reaction - itching, redness, swelling, dizziness.

An allergy is a medical condition that would be diagnosed.


This is totally untrue. Many kids are allergic to foods and the reaction is behavioral.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 23:21     Subject: 6 year old boys
If it was a food allergy you would know. An allergy activates the histamine system and you would have an allergic reaction - itching, redness, swelling, dizziness.

An allergy is a medical condition that would be diagnosed.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 23:19     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 5 year old is going through a spell like this. I admit it is because we are not always the best at enforcing boundaries and we are working on this as parents. It's hard to be a parent when it's easier to let things go and take back your enforcements sometimes.

My child is biting me when very angry. She is not yet 5, but this is high time to stop it. Two incidents in the past two weeks mean we are stepping up the enforcement and punishment.

We have also noticed that on days when she has a lot of sugar her personality changes. Even if the sugar is in the morning, these mercurial ways last all day. Though she is approaching an age where she needs to know right from wrong on her own volition, it is on us to say no to sugar in our house and we have not been good about this.

I hear you, OP. Yesterday was a horrible day for me.


Food allergy. What kind of sugary foods is she eating that cause this?

NP. You think it matters much if it's a donut or Fruit Loops? White sugar is white sugar, and none of it is actually "good" for children.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 21:41     Subject: 6 year old boys
One of my 6 year old twins is like this. I thinks it is because he works so so hard to be perfect at schools and its almost too much pressure.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 21:32     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:My 5 year old is going through a spell like this. I admit it is because we are not always the best at enforcing boundaries and we are working on this as parents. It's hard to be a parent when it's easier to let things go and take back your enforcements sometimes.

My child is biting me when very angry. She is not yet 5, but this is high time to stop it. Two incidents in the past two weeks mean we are stepping up the enforcement and punishment.

We have also noticed that on days when she has a lot of sugar her personality changes. Even if the sugar is in the morning, these mercurial ways last all day. Though she is approaching an age where she needs to know right from wrong on her own volition, it is on us to say no to sugar in our house and we have not been good about this.

I hear you, OP. Yesterday was a horrible day for me.


Food allergy. What kind of sugary foods is she eating that cause this?
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 19:45     Subject: Re:6 year old boys
I have a 6 year old boy and he is not at all like this. He whines too much and says he is bored too much, but generally he is in a good mood.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2014 11:05     Subject: 6 year old boys
My 5 year old is going through a spell like this. I admit it is because we are not always the best at enforcing boundaries and we are working on this as parents. It's hard to be a parent when it's easier to let things go and take back your enforcements sometimes.

My child is biting me when very angry. She is not yet 5, but this is high time to stop it. Two incidents in the past two weeks mean we are stepping up the enforcement and punishment.

We have also noticed that on days when she has a lot of sugar her personality changes. Even if the sugar is in the morning, these mercurial ways last all day. Though she is approaching an age where she needs to know right from wrong on her own volition, it is on us to say no to sugar in our house and we have not been good about this.

I hear you, OP. Yesterday was a horrible day for me.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2014 16:12     Subject: 6 year old boys
Anonymous wrote:My younger sister was like this. I have distinct memories if her flipping out when we were little. She's still pretty semantic and emotional in her 20s, but shes completely functional and out earns both me and our other sibling. She just blows up and then it's over, with minimal damage, like a thunderstorm.


Not semantic. Dramatic.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2014 16:11     Subject: 6 year old boys
My younger sister was like this. I have distinct memories if her flipping out when we were little. She's still pretty semantic and emotional in her 20s, but shes completely functional and out earns both me and our other sibling. She just blows up and then it's over, with minimal damage, like a thunderstorm.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2014 15:28     Subject: Re:6 year old boys
OP, that sounds like mine from 4.5 to 5.5. At 6 now, he's an angel.
I think these things go in phases. Just have faith and ride it out. The pendulum will swing.