Anonymous wrote:Anyone think that the DH in question might have been malingering just a little? When my DH has back pain he cannot stand the motion of sex, in any position. Way too painful.

Eh, maybe, maybe not. My husband has recurring back issues. They do not stop him from wanting sex. He'd rather try and see if he can get past the pain or not. He says fooling around takes his mind off of the pain.

Anonymous wrote:I am so glad that mine is not the only one who just pulls it out all the time. I'll be sitting on the couch and he'll come over and wiggle his crotch in my face and thinks he is so funny and clever. Sick, injured, doesn't matter - men are just horndogs.

I love him anyway...

OMG, lol, mine does that too! We'll be watching a movie, and I'll look over at him and he'll have his unit pulled out in his hand and he'll be looking at me (like, "Hey, look what I've got here for you!!) and give me this suggestive head/eye nod thing....

I am so glad that mine is not the only one who just pulls it out all the time. I'll be sitting on the couch and he'll come over and wiggle his crotch in my face and thinks he is so funny and clever. Sick, injured, doesn't matter - men are just horndogs.

I love him anyway...

I am a woman and I get very horny when I am sick. I have no clue why, but I have always been like that.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my DH. I don't how normal it is but it's definitely frustrating. As soon as DS is finally in bed, after I've run around all day and evening, the first thing he is doing is pulling it out. On one hand it's flattering but on the other hand it's like "can't you just give me a minute to myself???" My DH doesn't really get sick but if he did he would probably still want sex. He wants sex all the time. I imagine he will want it on his death bed.

You should swap. My DH won't ask for sex unless it's been at least 10 days. You could have some peace, and I could get some action '

Anonymous wrote:TMI from my mom, but she said my dad wanted sex within a month of dying from cancer. He was bald, skinny, weak, and could only eat pureed food, but apparently sex was still on the brain.

As long as she gave it to him, there's no problem. If he had energy for one more go-round, she had no excuse not to.

Anyone think that the DH in question might have been malingering just a little? When my DH has back pain he cannot stand the motion of sex, in any position. Way too painful.

I always think that if a doctor told a person that they were dangerously ill, and that if they abstained from sex that night they had a 50% chance of dying, but if they had sex they had a 90% chance of dying, most women would abstain but most men would go for it.

Anonymous wrote:The range of normal is really broad so I'll say sure it's "normal" - but it's also hugely insensitive to your needs. The great thing about humans - with our advance thinking skills and all - is that we should be able to identify when making advances towards our partner is a good and appropriate idea. Apparently your DH was thinking with the wrong head. You have every right to be annoyed and screw the pp who asked about "his needs". His freakin' needs were met all day - his need to sleep, his need to rest, his need to be left alone, his need for his DW to keep the 3 year old entertained, his need to eat… need I go on? Asking for sex after all that really makes it seem like he really wasn't that bad off and was just acting like a big old baby. And for the record - no one wants to sleep with a man-child.

So very true.

OP it seems it is normal. Normal doesn't make it any less annoying.

I think it's also normal for someone in your situation to NOT want to have sex.

This thread reminds me of all the reasons I love men!

The range of normal is really broad so I'll say sure it's "normal" - but it's also hugely insensitive to your needs. The great thing about humans - with our advance thinking skills and all - is that we should be able to identify when making advances towards our partner is a good and appropriate idea. Apparently your DH was thinking with the wrong head. You have every right to be annoyed and screw the pp who asked about "his needs". His freakin' needs were met all day - his need to sleep, his need to rest, his need to be left alone, his need for his DW to keep the 3 year old entertained, his need to eat… need I go on? Asking for sex after all that really makes it seem like he really wasn't that bad off and was just acting like a big old baby. And for the record - no one wants to sleep with a man-child.

Sounds like my DH. I don't how normal it is but it's definitely frustrating. As soon as DS is finally in bed, after I've run around all day and evening, the first thing he is doing is pulling it out. On one hand it's flattering but on the other hand it's like "can't you just give me a minute to myself???" My DH doesn't really get sick but if he did he would probably still want sex. He wants sex all the time. I imagine he will want it on his death bed.

TMI from my mom, but she said my dad wanted sex within a month of dying from cancer. He was bald, skinny, weak, and could only eat pureed food, but apparently sex was still on the brain.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. My husband is looking pretty good to me right now after hearing some of these approaches.

Dear god.

lol, My DH's most used approach is just whipping it out and asking if I "want to bang".

He's such a romantic.

Lol

OP I would be annoyed as well and of course you're not anything negative just because you don't want to be intimate.

Anonymous wrote:OMG. My husband is looking pretty good to me right now after hearing some of these approaches.

Dear god.

lol, My DH's most used approach is just whipping it out and asking if I "want to bang".

He's such a romantic.