I'm a dad and my daughter is like this. She will be 12 in 3 months. She REALLY pushes boundaries and is nothing short of a complete bitch bordering on c*nt at times. My wife gets the wrath at times as well but it's especially bad with me. When she was younger it was the magic daddy/daughter relationship we all dream of... but it sure has changed.

The problem is that my wife and I have our issues and I'm convinced my daughter is modeling our behavior. Also - when I stand my ground and demand to be spoken to respectfully and kindly, the shit hits the fan and my daughter gets even MORE dramatic, after which my wife blames me for us getting in a fight. But if my daughter never acted so disrespectful and bitchy then it would have never started.

When my wife yells back at her and puts her in her place it's supposedly fine and she's "being a firm parent". So I lose on all sides. Meh...

I hope this will pass at some point and I hope I will eventually have a decent relationship with my daughter. I told her in a calm and quiet way that I love her more than anything but the way she treats me is pushing me away.

I feel like if this continues I will have no problem having an adult child I don't have any contact with because I believe the purpose of life is to be happy, and she is bringing me nothing but stress and heartache. And if I'm continually treated like shit then though I'll always love her, she will see that my friendship and support have serious limits.

This weekend was particularly tough and as I quietly sat on the back steps before the house awoke this morning, I had the clam and clear thought that getting married and having a child may be the single thing in life I would take back if I could. Sad place to be.

I heard they get nice again at 18.

My 12 yr. old DD has recently begun behaving like this as well. She's also very moody - cries, whines, etc. at nothing. I think her hormones are fluctuating madly. I had her at 40 and now I'm 52 and going through menopause - I know exactly how she feels because my hormones are going crazy too!! I think it's perfectly normal for both of us.

My poor DH is living with two women - one at the beginning and one at the end of hormonal craziness!!

Anonymous wrote:I was a majorly snarky bitch to my mom from age 12-18. I recently started up again because my mother is an entitled Baby Boomer and drives me crazy.

Really, that's how you post on a public forum about YOUR MOTHER? It's just rude.

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP: no "disorders" of any kind. She's healthy and does well in school. Just wondering if this is a phase or is she on her way to being impossible.

Yeah, I thought the disorder thing was a bit much, too. Yes. Normal. She probably is on her way to being impossible for a while, but they are all fairly impossible for a while. Nit is a good thing they used to be cute.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop focusing on her vs. you. You are in it for the long haul. Focus on communication. Stop sweating the small stuff.

Good advice; I can't say this is the first time I have sweated the small stuff. thanks again

Agree. We too forget and have to remind ourselves it is the big stuff that we need to focus on.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the sky blue?

Seriously, stop and think hard about how you were at this age.

See that's the thing: I was okay at this age. I didn't get attitudinal until about 16.

At 12 my mom drove me into the country and threatened to drop me off if I didn't shape up.

Anonymous wrote:Stop focusing on her vs. you. You are in it for the long haul. Focus on communication. Stop sweating the small stuff.

Good advice; I can't say this is the first time I have sweated the small stuff. thanks again

Stop focusing on her vs. you. You are in it for the long haul. Focus on communication. Stop sweating the small stuff.

Thanks everyone. I think it comes in waves with her. She's been more tolerable lately. She's lovable but the know-everything thing shows up and I'm all UGH! But I appreciate the feedback very much.

My 8 year old is like this. I guess I could be in for it for a while longer. Hooray.

Does the pope work Sundays?

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP: no "disorders" of any kind. She's healthy and does well in school. Just wondering if this is a phase or is she on her way to being impossible.

Some people see only black and white - it's either right or it's wrong.

I was a majorly snarky bitch to my mom from age 12-18. I recently started up again because my mother is an entitled Baby Boomer and drives me crazy.

My daughter is only 6 and already knows everything!