Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 23:21     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:If you're renting and have no huge mortgage hole, I'm not sure the staying together thing will work out very well.

Now you're getting into territory where a judge might decide you really aren't separated if you do things like each other's laundry, make meals, etc.


OP here- I am thinking that, too! Moreover, I don't know how I am going to separate those things. I don't want to cook for him or do his laundry, but I don't know how I can get out of it and not be a bitch if we live together.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 23:18     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd be very interested in hearing more about people in VA who are "Seperated" but living together. I am finding myself in a similar situation. I'm leaving my husband with our child. We can't really afford a second residence because we just bought a house. Can we be Seperated but living together?


Do you mind telling us why you are divorcing? It doesn't look like he is a terrible cohabitant if you don't mind living together?


We are divorcing for many reasons, the chief reason is his lack of interest in our sex life. The last time we had sex was April, and we only had sex then because I insisted. He is really not a sexual person, but it is getting worse as we get older. I've explained to him MANY times how important it is to me to have a good sex life, it's just not a priority for him. There are other factors obviously, but through therapy we are finding ourselves further apart as apposed to coming together.


Thank you very much for your reply! This is OP.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 23:18     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:OP, if he isn't a sexual person and you just want sex, can you find a friend with bennifits? Or, is he willing to look at a medical cause, low T might be it. If neither of these appeal to you, just divorce. You don't want to live with someone who isn't going to provide you with, or want to receive love and affection. You will find guys who want to fuck, but they won't be anybody you want to have a relationship and it will start to make you miserable. The good guys won't have anything to do with you because they won't believe what you're telling them, and since they're good guys, they'll have plenty of other options. Your house is a rental, f*** it.


Just fwiw this is not OP you are responding to.
I am the OP and I actually asked that PP why they were divorcing.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 17:25     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
OP, if he isn't a sexual person and you just want sex, can you find a friend with bennifits? Or, is he willing to look at a medical cause, low T might be it. If neither of these appeal to you, just divorce. You don't want to live with someone who isn't going to provide you with, or want to receive love and affection. You will find guys who want to fuck, but they won't be anybody you want to have a relationship and it will start to make you miserable. The good guys won't have anything to do with you because they won't believe what you're telling them, and since they're good guys, they'll have plenty of other options. Your house is a rental, f*** it.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 14:55     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd be very interested in hearing more about people in VA who are "Seperated" but living together. I am finding myself in a similar situation. I'm leaving my husband with our child. We can't really afford a second residence because we just bought a house. Can we be Seperated but living together?


Do you mind telling us why you are divorcing? It doesn't look like he is a terrible cohabitant if you don't mind living together?


We are divorcing for many reasons, the chief reason is his lack of interest in our sex life. The last time we had sex was April, and we only had sex then because I insisted. He is really not a sexual person, but it is getting worse as we get older. I've explained to him MANY times how important it is to me to have a good sex life, it's just not a priority for him. There are other factors obviously, but through therapy we are finding ourselves further apart as apposed to coming together.
Anonymous
Post 02/03/2014 13:22     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
If you're renting and have no huge mortgage hole, I'm not sure the staying together thing will work out very well.

Now you're getting into territory where a judge might decide you really aren't separated if you do things like each other's laundry, make meals, etc.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 16:54     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What benefits do you think single moms get?

OP, talk to a lawyer.


I think I might win something in terms of taxes; otherwise I don't know (and its not like I am divorcing for benefits)


If he is paying child support, more than likely it will split the taxes every other year.


I might need to just see a CPA and run the numbers. Married filing jointly vs married filing separately vs me filing as head of household and him as single I guess?
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 16:50     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:I work with a lot of judges, and they are finding this arrangement to be more and more common, especially when the housing market crashed and people just literally couldn't afford to sell the house. It's legit.


Thank you.
We are renting, but if I want a decent school district, I will only be able to afford a studio (with a child). Maybe a very small one bedroom.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 16:48     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What benefits do you think single moms get?

OP, talk to a lawyer.


I think I might win something in terms of taxes; otherwise I don't know (and its not like I am divorcing for benefits)


If he is paying child support, more than likely it will split the taxes every other year.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 16:48     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:I'd be very interested in hearing more about people in VA who are "Seperated" but living together. I am finding myself in a similar situation. I'm leaving my husband with our child. We can't really afford a second residence because we just bought a house. Can we be Seperated but living together?


Do you mind telling us why you are divorcing? It doesn't look like he is a terrible cohabitant if you don't mind living together?
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 15:37     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
I'd be very interested in hearing more about people in VA who are "Seperated" but living together. I am finding myself in a similar situation. I'm leaving my husband with our child. We can't really afford a second residence because we just bought a house. Can we be Seperated but living together?
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 13:24     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
I work with a lot of judges, and they are finding this arrangement to be more and more common, especially when the housing market crashed and people just literally couldn't afford to sell the house. It's legit.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 11:38     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like OP and her husband are trying to come up with a way to commit fraud for public assistance and/or evade paying off debt.


It is your right to think that. But you are wrong. I just want to be separate from my H, but I don't think I can afford physical separation.
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 11:37     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
Anonymous wrote:What benefits do you think single moms get?

OP, talk to a lawyer.


I think I might win something in terms of taxes; otherwise I don't know (and its not like I am divorcing for benefits)
Anonymous
Post 02/02/2014 00:44     Subject: If people divorce but share the house- is it still legit?
It sounds like OP and her husband are trying to come up with a way to commit fraud for public assistance and/or evade paying off debt.