Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 11:25     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:I don't think this type of 'racism' is about hating one's race, but more about not liking the behavior of some of one's own race/experience and being hyper aware of how certain behaviors appear to others.

I see embarrassing behavior from all races at times, but the only one that is truly embarrassing to me is that of my own race, because when it's what you self-identify as, it's the most cringeworthy like 'o god this is how people see us'.


We are a mixed couple, and we see issues where we see them- all races. We are rabid people-watchers because, well, people are fascinating.




+1
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 11:02     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:Actually some of the most racist people I know are in IR marriages. That's why I laugh when folks talk about IR marriage and children ridding the world of racism. Please. Some times (not all the time) people end up in IR marriages because they have racial issues themself.



So true.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 11:00     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever seen a situation where there is a mixed marriage involving one white partner (I mean white white, not ethnic) and the other spouse of another race or ethnic minority, but it is the non-white spouse who has the hangups with other non-white races (sometimes including their own).

I have seen about four or five such cases and it always blows my mind. In all the cases I have seen, the white spouse is oblivious to all of it.


Yes, I have seen this before with various people. That's why some people date or marry outside of their race. You may not know what that person's experiences were within their own racial group. Maybe they were mistreated or abused by their own people and they developed a disdain towards them. If you're not a part of a minority group, then you may not understand the constant pressure and tribal mentality to go against anything that your group deems as white culture. When a minority marries a white person the backlash that they receive from their group is devastating. Your peers from your minority group can't accept that you marry a white person and that you've assimilated into the majority culture. The rejection from them turns into hating them. You begin to see them as your enemies instead of your allies. You also may throw in other minorities into your hate box because you fear that they may hurt you too. Intra-racism is very real. It's a way to project your pain, insecurities, and fears onto others. Know that the person who you see behaving in this manner is hurt. Hurt people hurt other people. However, this is nothing new.


Way to lump a whoooooleee lot of people into one group who all do the same thing. Generalization is a big thing for you huh?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 10:08     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:Actually some of the most racist people I know are in IR marriages. That's why I laugh when folks talk about IR marriage and children ridding the world of racism. Please. Some times (not all the time) people end up in IR marriages because they have racial issues themself.



Bingo! This is exactly what I've seen in my family.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 10:02     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?



The Moors (Arabs from North Africa) made their way to Southern Italy, Spain, and many other places. Those dudes got around and there was a lot of mixing going on in Europe many moons ago.



Um, it wasn't the Moors...it was sub-saharans, real black people. Read paragraphs 1 and 5.


http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2011/06/finding-the-genetic-trail/
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 09:57     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Actually some of the most racist people I know are in IR marriages. That's why I laugh when folks talk about IR marriage and children ridding the world of racism. Please. Some times (not all the time) people end up in IR marriages because they have racial issues themself.

Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 09:54     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
I have seen two couples where the wife is East Indian and the husband, white. The mothers seemed to do everythiing possible to keep those kids away from blacks or other Asians.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 09:07     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
I don't think this type of 'racism' is about hating one's race, but more about not liking the behavior of some of one's own race/experience and being hyper aware of how certain behaviors appear to others.

I see embarrassing behavior from all races at times, but the only one that is truly embarrassing to me is that of my own race, because when it's what you self-identify as, it's the most cringeworthy like 'o god this is how people see us'.


We are a mixed couple, and we see issues where we see them- all races. We are rabid people-watchers because, well, people are fascinating.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 08:50     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?


Not OP, but Italian, Jewish, etc.



I always learn something new. LOL


I would actually cateogorize those classes as ethnic white, not white white. WASPs are White White. Anyone who came over on the Mayflower or at any point before the Civil War: White White.

Those are rednecks. Central and northern Europeans are white white.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 08:43     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?


Not OP, but Italian, Jewish, etc.



I always learn something new. LOL


I would actually cateogorize those classes as ethnic white, not white white. WASPs are White White. Anyone who came over on the Mayflower or at any point before the Civil War: White White.


Wait, I thought a wasp was a jew? Whats the difference?


White = White Anglo Saxon Protestant. Jew = Jewish, which is not a Protestant religion, and generally not Anglo Saxon.


Thank you.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 08:32     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
A jew is about as far from a WASP as you can get in the "white world" LOL! I would LOVE to see you call a little old jewish lady a WASP to her face and in front of a "real" WASP. hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 08:29     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?


Not OP, but Italian, Jewish, etc.



I always learn something new. LOL


I would actually cateogorize those classes as ethnic white, not white white. WASPs are White White. Anyone who came over on the Mayflower or at any point before the Civil War: White White.


Wait, I thought a wasp was a jew? Whats the difference?


White = White Anglo Saxon Protestant. Jew = Jewish, which is not a Protestant religion, and generally not Anglo Saxon.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 08:26     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?


Not OP, but Italian, Jewish, etc.



I always learn something new. LOL


I would actually cateogorize those classes as ethnic white, not white white. WASPs are White White. Anyone who came over on the Mayflower or at any point before the Civil War: White White.


Wait, I thought a wasp was a jew? Whats the difference?
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 06:43     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?



The Moors (Arabs from North Africa) made their way to Southern Italy, Spain, and many other places. Those dudes got around and there was a lot of mixing going on in Europe many moons ago.


"got around," I learned raped.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2014 06:41     Subject: Racism in inter-racial or inter-ethnic families
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP,
And by the way, what's white white, versus ethnic white?


Not OP, but Italian, Jewish, etc.



I always learn something new. LOL


I would actually cateogorize those classes as ethnic white, not white white. WASPs are White White. Anyone who came over on the Mayflower or at any point before the Civil War: White White.