Anonymous wrote:why don't you list all you had to do today and we will decide if your list warrents the snippy attitude.

Not OP, but I think just writing down everything I have to do today would put me in a bad mood. Yikes...

why don't you list all you had to do today and we will decide if your list warrents the snippy attitude.

Op what would you be doing if not driving him to the metro?

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Anonymous wrote:So, I drop my DH off at the metro every morning on the way to taking kids to school. This morning I was tired and cranky and started bitching to my DH about all the things I need to do around the house and dropped in "and on top of that I have to be your taxi." He said, "There's a bus stop right there. I'll get out. I don't need you to drive me." Well, now I am really pissed 'cause I feel he doesn't appreciate my driving him. What do you think? Was his an asshole response? Or did I provoke him? Should I apologize for what I said?

Op I am probably one of the few who also drive DH to the metro in the morning. You vented; he over reacted. If you drive him everyday, you might want to think it over: is it causing resentment? Do you feel it is too much? There are times when I don't mind taking DH and there are others when it really is inconvenient. We have worked it out that from time to time, it is better to take a cab. Really helps the marriage. You can always rise above and apologize. I would like to know how many of the PPs who said you were just beyond rude actually take a person every day. It can get wearing.

I am sorry but this was not "venting." She was having a bad morning and was not up to par. Fine. Happens to the best of us. She wants to "vent" about all she has do...fine. But her smack at him was designed to make him feel like crap. It was pointed. She was bitchy and wanted to spread it around. He did not overeact! She was weary of driving him but maybe he was also weary of her bitching the whole ride. He may have had a bad morning too and realized that this was going to escalate.

I have been married for 20 years and one "rule" my DH and stick to - do not start sh!t in the morning. Folks are tired and it ruins your entire day. Conversations like this should be had when you bith are rested and calm.

You snapped at him and there was no reason to do so. "I have to be your taxi" is a direct dig at him. Everything about your phrasing was just rude.

Venting is "I'm so frustrated and feeling overwhelmed with everything I have to do!" Rude is "and on top of all that, I HAVE TO (am being forced to) be YOUR (you, jerk husband, causing me so much burden) TAXI (service provider).

You were rude and you should apologize. I don't fault him for taking the bus. Try having a civil conversation about your frustrations.

If I was your husband, I would have told your ass to get out the car, because the bus stop is right there.

YOU are pissed at him??? You comment was snide and not constructive at all. You were an ass!!

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Anonymous wrote:So, I drop my DH off at the metro every morning on the way to taking kids to school. This morning I was tired and cranky and started bitching to my DH about all the things I need to do around the house and dropped in "and on top of that I have to be your taxi." He said, "There's a bus stop right there. I'll get out. I don't need you to drive me." Well, now I am really pissed 'cause I feel he doesn't appreciate my driving him. What do you think? Was his an asshole response? Or did I provoke him? Should I apologize for what I said?

Op I am probably one of the few who also drive DH to the metro in the morning. You vented; he over reacted. If you drive him everyday, you might want to think it over: is it causing resentment? Do you feel it is too much? There are times when I don't mind taking DH and there are others when it really is inconvenient. We have worked it out that from time to time, it is better to take a cab. Really helps the marriage. You can always rise above and apologize. I would like to know how many of the PPs who said you were just beyond rude actually take a person every day. It can get wearing.

Tough shit. I drive my kids to school every day. Should they take a cab? Should I rant at them? Are they supposed to be grateful to me?

It's a partnership. He's working, presumably part of what allows her to SAH includes driving him to the Metro: which is ON HER WAY to the kids school.

She's a complete bitch.

Your bad. Not saying you should drive your DH to the metro every morning if it's not working for you but that's beside the point. You were rude to him, he felt your unpleasantness and offered to get the bus. He may very well appreciate what you do for him but that's irrelevant - you were rude and he reacted to that. No reason to be pissed, sorry OP.

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Anonymous wrote:You were wrong. You raised a problem, he pointed out an easy solution. If you can't do a favor for someone with a smile, without resenting it, then don't do them the favor.

You owe him an apology. YOU would have pissed me off if I were your husband.

+1, although I don't think the ride is a "favor" if he is taking the metro to work and you stay at home.

I agree. I think my answer might be different based on whether OP is a SAHM. Is that terrible? As in, I'd be more inclined to can the DH drop off it it bothered me and was causing stress if I also had my own job and had to do school drop off in addition. But it doesn't sound like that is the case and so I think yes, OP's DH definitely had a right to be pissed off.

Anonymous wrote:So, I drop my DH off at the metro every morning on the way to taking kids to school. This morning I was tired and cranky and started bitching to my DH about all the things I need to do around the house and dropped in "and on top of that I have to be your taxi." He said, "There's a bus stop right there. I'll get out. I don't need you to drive me." Well, now I am really pissed 'cause I feel he doesn't appreciate my driving him. What do you think? Was his an asshole response? Or did I provoke him? Should I apologize for what I said?

Op I am probably one of the few who also drive DH to the metro in the morning. You vented; he over reacted. If you drive him everyday, you might want to think it over: is it causing resentment? Do you feel it is too much? There are times when I don't mind taking DH and there are others when it really is inconvenient. We have worked it out that from time to time, it is better to take a cab. Really helps the marriage. You can always rise above and apologize. I would like to know how many of the PPs who said you were just beyond rude actually take a person every day. It can get wearing.

Let me get this straight...she goes off on a tirade for no reason and makes a rude swipe at DH and she is angry because (gasp!!) he had the audacity to not wanna sit in the car and take that crap. Geezus.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it would piss me off. I think it would be obvious I was just venting, so for him to a) cut me off and b) do so in such a passive-aggressive way as to suggest, "Ok, fine, I"ll take the stinkin' bus!" was uncalled for. DH needs to know when you are just venting and when you are really looking for a solution to a problem. This time, it was the latter.

And how, pray tell, is the DH supposed to know she is "just venting." If she wants to vent, get a virtual friend, get on DCUM but don't dump a load of sh*t on your SO and expect he will take it. I think the DH acted with remarkable restraint. He simply stated a response to being told it was such a "burden" to drop him off at the metro ON THE WAY (not a special trip)- "I don't need a ride. Thank you."

You're kidding. What a rude thing to say!! You were totally wrong!

OP, you were in the wrong. I'm a "lady," but you were rude and should apologize.