Anonymous wrote:OP again.

Honestly, there is nothing I can do unless I want to start WWIII. And SIL lives across the country. I do feel very sorry for her son. It is hard to have compassion for somebody who tries to ruin your wedding, your vacations, and just sabatoge or compete with everything you do, so not only is she manic, she is a b-.

For instance, when we set the date to get married (months after their wedding), she decided she wanted to fly her family here, to NoVA, to have a second wedding the weekend of my wedding, and suggested I just cancel my wedding and have it next year and that everyone was sooooo excited to go to her humungous (sp?) second wedding reception that was going to be soooo much bigger than whatever I was planning for my wedding, and that mine would be pathetic, etc.

Need I say more?

Oh, this summer, we planned a week off in August, and invited FIL to also take off and planned to have him stay here for a few days (from NYC).

So SIL goes and buys him a ticket to see her that week - even though she was working. Just to ruin some of our plans. She gets off on it. I dont get it.

Anonymous wrote:OP: Are you surprised at theses responses?
I come from a large family and have been talking out loud about my bipolar illness and have been avoided and treated with cruelty bt them. It is my belief that my disclosure may made them uncomfortable with their own potential struggles (that may be true in your case). The sad thing is that 2 of them are Drs. Mental Illness is considered shameful to all 10 in my immediate family.
My anger with your post makes me also want to call you names (ignorant, mean, prejudice).
However, in an effort to be part of the solution, why don't you educate yourself as to how to help her. NAMI is a great place to start. Research by finding people who could help YOU become an effective resource for your family. Maybe you could find books that could back up your concerns. I am unaware if an intervention is available for this type of problem.
In my situation, the wheels are falling off in many of my siblings lives and I don't look like such a crazy person anymore.
It sound like your SIL needs a mood stabilizer (Lamictal).
I hope you become part of the solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Compassion can be exhausting. Sometimes we need to vent / let our evil side express itself. Better on an anonymous forum than in real life, no? If not here then where?

Where did you see any signs that there had ever been even a shred of compassion. This isn't a vent about being exhausted from caring for an ill family member. This is just all about how annoyed and irritated she is by her SIL having a mental illness. It is all about OP and written in a way that would indicate she has never cared in any way about her SIL except for how her SIL's illness impacts her.

Anonymous wrote:SIL is totally in a full blown state of mania. She has been for at least 6-7 months. It has no end. In 4 months she has bought all new furniture, then totally renovated, then did glam shots of herself and says she is doing a wesbite selling her know how, then she is doing the MMM for 42 thou/yr because she will make the first month's installment and then some the first week (site not up yet), then she found a dream house (online) per FB post, 1 hour later she is looking for contractors for her new home office to-be (in said dream house), she is going to all of these millionaire sales people seminars and posting pics there saying they are her friends that she spent the day with, now she is on day 4 of diet number bazillion, she posts also that her thoughts are racing OMG everything is moving so fast, she posts so much is happening at once OMG she needs an assistant, she is flying to vegas, LA, etc. etc. (meanwhile very sick child she doesn't notice till he has to be hospitalized, again, this time pneumonia, last time unresponsive due to severe fever maybe dehydrated, or was that 2 times ago. . .lost count of her toddlers hospitalizations).

She is a telemarketer. She is not well off. She declared bankruptcy 2 years ago. I need to detach because it is like a never ending psycho drama that I am intrigued by in a dysfunctional way - like free entertainment. Although what makes it mildly annoying is that she is so insecure and competitive, and she believes she is competing with everybody and that I guess, in her mind, she is "Winning!" "Winner!"

That is all. Just sharing.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you have to pretend it's fantastic and normal? So what if they would be enraged? Not only are you mean, you are a coward.

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