Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And 17 would be a good age to start.

Right, and at least one of the 17 should be with another woman.

She should sleep with who she wants. As many or as few as she wants.

I'm a woman. My life would be a lot easier if I were into women, but I'm not. If I were bi, I would happily join the lesbian community and stay there. I just can't muster a desire to have sex with a woman. I tried it in college because I thought I was supposed to. It wasn't fair to my partner and it didn't work well for me. Failed straight girl experiments are a source of some bitterness in the lesbian community.

Telling a 17 year old to have sex with a woman to fulfill some kind of quota is wrong. It gives her the wrong idea about orientation.

Anonymous wrote:My husband told my boys that they should sleep with at least 8-12 people before settling on a life partner. I told them that it isn't a quota and if they find the right person on #4, they should stay with that person, rather than trying to fill a quota.

That said, I would say that a young person should have at least 3 sexual partners before they get married. They need to know what they're getting and what they're doing before they settle into monogamy or monogamish relationships.

Anonymous wrote:Shocker! The sexist doesn't have an argument.

If someone chose a number, it still doesn't fucking matter. It's not up to you or other random, internet people to decide.

A girl with too many partners for the wrong reasons needs therapy, not shame.

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Anonymous wrote:As many or as few as my daughter (or my son, for that matter) wanted to have while staying safe and healthy, physically, mentally and emotionally. In our family, we don't slut-shame.

so 100 would be ok if she felt safe and healthy?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And 17 would be a good age to start.

Right, and at least one of the 17 should be with another woman.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

The problem with that is there is no concrete number. It's how she feels about her choices that matter.

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

Anonymous wrote:As many or as few as my daughter (or my son, for that matter) wanted to have while staying safe and healthy, physically, mentally and emotionally. In our family, we don't slut-shame.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not all up my child's vagina. I don't think I would want to know exactly how many she will have. All I can do is teach and preach.

The exercise here is to put a real number on it - otherwise please depart thread!

I would tell my daughter (and son) that the notion of a woman's "number" implicitly measures her value by her sexuality, which is a nasty sexist thing to do. I would discuss the different perceptions of slut vs stud and the gender norms there. And I would tell my daughter AND my son (equally) that my hope for them is that they have sex in the context of successful, loving relationships. And that nobody should ever do anything sexual unless they really want to. I would explain to my son that girls/women should never be pressured in any way to have sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not all up my child's vagina. I don't think I would want to know exactly how many she will have. All I can do is teach and preach.

The exercise here is to put a real number on it - otherwise please depart thread!

Anonymous wrote:And 17 would be a good age to start.