Anonymous wrote:I would be fine with my brother, cousin, or good friend doing this. But not my husband, the one person I have a sexual relationship with. I do not find cross-dressing in men to be sexy. Sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Looks like you hit a nerve with 15:23.

First, I (and apparently only I) understand that there is a wide gap between cross-dressing and gender identity issues or being gay. I'm pretty sure the vast majority of cross dressers are straight.

That said, this is something you need to talk with your wife about. She may have strong feelings, fears and doubts that will take some time to work through. Possibly together with a counselor.

Good luck, OP.

Do you think this is a welcome surprise for his wife? Do you believe she's ready to pop champagne and celebrate with a fashion show? In the end, she's the one who has to decide whether she wants to live with this. He can further embrace this and cultivate a whole new life here. What's she supposed to do? This issue isn't all about him and his need to wear stockings. There is another person who has to get up every morning and decide how long she can swallow this. Honestly, it's probably best if he's just as upfront as he can be and allow her to decide where to go with this and not fault her for saying she can't live with it. He's asking DCUM to tell him how a woman would feel about this and he wants everyone to say, "sure, I could live with it. Heck, I'd even love it! Let's do the Time Warp Again!"

I'm not the PP, but I also understand the difference between cross dressing and gender identity issues. I posted up thread that I would also be concerned about you stretching out my clothing. Even if this is just a cross dressing issue and not a sexuality issue at all, I would worry about its effects on our sex life. Both because it seems like it would be a stressful time for the husband, and also because I am not sexually attracted to women and my husband dressing as a woman might affect MY attraction to him (not the other way around).

I do think that suddenly showing up wearing women's clothing, rather than talking about it in advance, would come as a shock to me as a wife. I think that the conversation would also be shocking, though. Seems like it might be one of those things that is easier to start a conversation with by demonstrating. In the end, I would really want to know what the long term effects of this habit would be, whether and when we'd tell children, family, friends, etc. I would want to know how it would change the status quo, before I could make any decisions about whether or not I could handle it.

I'm not the PP, but I also understand the difference between cross dressing and gender identity issues. I posted up thread that I would also be concerned about you stretching out my clothing. Even if this is just a cross dressing issue and not a sexuality issue at all, I would worry about its effects on our sex life. Both because it seems like it would be a stressful time for the husband, and also because I am not sexually attracted to women and my husband dressing as a woman might affect MY attraction to him (not the other way around).

I do think that suddenly showing up wearing women's clothing, rather than talking about it in advance, would come as a shock to me as a wife. I think that the conversation would also be shocking, though. Seems like it might be one of those things that is easier to start a conversation with by demonstrating. In the end, I would really want to know what the long term effects of this habit would be, whether and when we'd tell children, family, friends, etc. I would want to know how it would change the status quo, before I could make any decisions about whether or not I could handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Looks like you hit a nerve with 15:23.

First, I (and apparently only I) understand that there is a wide gap between cross-dressing and gender identity issues or being gay. I'm pretty sure the vast majority of cross dressers are straight.

That said, this is something you need to talk with your wife about. She may have strong feelings, fears and doubts that will take some time to work through. Possibly together with a counselor.

Good luck, OP.

Do you think this is a welcome surprise for his wife? Do you believe she's ready to pop champagne and celebrate with a fashion show? In the end, she's the one who has to decide whether she wants to live with this. He can further embrace this and cultivate a whole new life here. What's she supposed to do? This issue isn't all about him and his need to wear stockings. There is another person who has to get up every morning and decide how long she can swallow this. Honestly, it's probably best if he's just as upfront as he can be and allow her to decide where to go with this and not fault her for saying she can't live with it. He's asking DCUM to tell him how a woman would feel about this and he wants everyone to say, "sure, I could live with it. Heck, I'd even love it! Let's do the Time Warp Again!"

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Looks like you hit a nerve with 15:23.

First, I (and apparently only I) understand that there is a wide gap between cross-dressing and gender identity issues or being gay. I'm pretty sure the vast majority of cross dressers are straight.

That said, this is something you need to talk with your wife about. She may have strong feelings, fears and doubts that will take some time to work through. Possibly together with a counselor.

Good luck, OP.