Anonymous wrote:How do I get over this? We have been friends for a while now and I love hanging out with her. We can seriously talk about things for hours and the fact that she is hot does not help. I know nothing will ever come out of this, she has what seems to be an amazing relationship with her DH. I just need to get over this, she is all I ever think about when I'm with other women and I am constantly comparing them to her. Not to mention I feel like crap when I think about betraying my friend. She just seems so real while the women I date appear artificial to me. Advice? Please don't tell me to stop seeing her cold turkey. I really value the friendship I have with her DH and her.
When you think about how perfect she is, think about hurting your friend. Think about destroying their relationship. Think about how realistically, you don't know what it's like to be in a relationship with her. No one is as perfect as we think they are when we're infatuated.
Also, whether you want to admit it or not, you are using this woman and your feelings for her as an excuse to not get involved with other women. Maybe if you found some other women of a similar caliber, you wouldn't need to justify not being involved with them to yourself.