saw this subject. i read somewhere once the husband was talking to a marrage counsoler, he said what would you miss the most about your wife if you divorced her, the man said her cooking, dr. said get divorced. my case i wouldnt even miss that, if i dont cook, her idea of meals are stick in microwave or go out. i work 50+ hours a week, she is a SAHM kids are 8 and 10 so they are in school most of the day, all she does is sleep and complain about me. she does have depression(takes meds). she said i dont know how to handle money or the bills. we were using her disability checks to pay the monthly mortgage, but for some reason the last 2 months she took HER money out to spend for christmas, never mind we are already behind on mortgage and are set up and a re-payment plan to get caught up. i'm to the point i what a divorce but im here for the kids. we have 1 car, she is not working and the state decided since she can go to church every sunday she can get a job and kicked her off disibility starting next month. 8 years ago i said, she has no common sense (cant remember what she did, but common sense should have kicked in first) she then decide i was calling her stupid, took an OD, thats how she deals with our fights, says she going to take all her pills. its to the point if she does succede, i am only worried there is no way to raise 2 young boys with my work schedule and the money i make cant afford a babysitter or nanny. her mom only hears wife side of things, thinks im bad with the kids, has offered to take the kids to raise them, i may take her up the offer and leave. but she can sit here and be-little me every day, then wonder why i dont want to snuggle or cozy up to her. ok, thanks for finally letting me vent