Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 10:52     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Puhleeze! Why is this old canard always brought up when DWs stop being fun to be around. Let me let you all in on a little secret my mother learned that made her happy and kept the family happy: the house does not need to perfect. As my Uncle Olaf used to say I'd you want to see me come visit anytime, if you want to see my house make an appointment.

Considering I work 12 hour days and she is free from 7:30 - 4:00 pm, she has plenty of time for her chores. She just has poor time management skills.


You sound like a peach.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 10:48     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Bitch!
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 10:15     Subject: My DW is Boring...
hey doofus, why don't you go to macy's to do returns now...loser
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 08:07     Subject: My DW is Boring...
That too. Hotness does not equal good lover!
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 07:47     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least she works out , is she hot


Rather be married to someone interesting than a skinny bitch.


bad idea


the DW might be hot, skinny, and a dead fish in the sack
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2013 06:23     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert and I would stay home, go for walks around our neighborhood, and grocery shop every weekend if I could. DH likes people and while I drag my feet about going out, I find I have fun once I get out and am chatting with people provided it is a small group - up to 3 or 4 other couples. He knows this and plans most of our social events - even my coworkers know to make plans with him, not me.

Because I love him and know how much getting out to explore the city and its cultural offerings means to him I make an effort for him. I pick up the free paper and read WP's going out guide and I pick and plan 1 event a month - I make reservations, buy tickets, plan how we'll get there, etc. I put the day, time, and attire on our calendar and it's his surprise each month. I find it helps me to plan in advance.


NP here, just want to say this was a very nice comment. It seems you and your DH really work together and compromise to consider each other's needs and how to make each other happy- something we can all learn from.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 23:45     Subject: Re:My DW is Boring...
Not to say your wife is any better, but you don't sound very interesting either. It seems that you constantly need outside stimulation to fill your otherwise empty head.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 23:42     Subject: My DW is Boring...
She doesn't get to dictate your life any more than you can or should dictate hers. If you have different interests and she isn't wanting to get involved in yours- do them on your own and with DD. She shouldn't be getting angry at you for doing your thing any more than you should be angry at her for doing her thing.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 23:40     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert and I would stay home, go for walks around our neighborhood, and grocery shop every weekend if I could. DH likes people and while I drag my feet about going out, I find I have fun once I get out and am chatting with people provided it is a small group - up to 3 or 4 other couples. He knows this and plans most of our social events - even my coworkers know to make plans with him, not me.

Because I love him and know how much getting out to explore the city and its cultural offerings means to him I make an effort for him. I pick up the free paper and read WP's going out guide and I pick and plan 1 event a month - I make reservations, buy tickets, plan how we'll get there, etc. I put the day, time, and attire on our calendar and it's his surprise each month. I find it helps me to plan in advance.


NP here, just want to say this was a very nice comment. It seems you and your DH really work together and compromise to consider each other's needs and how to make each other happy- something we can all learn from.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 23:38     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At least she works out , is she hot


Rather be married to someone interesting than a skinny bitch.


bad idea
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 23:32     Subject: My DW is Boring...
I'm an introvert and I would stay home, go for walks around our neighborhood, and grocery shop every weekend if I could. DH likes people and while I drag my feet about going out, I find I have fun once I get out and am chatting with people provided it is a small group - up to 3 or 4 other couples. He knows this and plans most of our social events - even my coworkers know to make plans with him, not me.

Because I love him and know how much getting out to explore the city and its cultural offerings means to him I make an effort for him. I pick up the free paper and read WP's going out guide and I pick and plan 1 event a month - I make reservations, buy tickets, plan how we'll get there, etc. I put the day, time, and attire on our calendar and it's his surprise each month. I find it helps me to plan in advance.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 23:24     Subject: My DW is Boring...
I love to travel, read and redo homes.

My spouse does not.

So I just do these things on my own.

We connect but on a different level.

I do not want him to change who he is.

I married him for who he is. Better or worse.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 22:54     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you help your wife out at home?
Maybe she's overwhelmed with housework/chores?


Puhleeze! Why is this old canard always brought up when DWs stop being fun to be around. Let me let you all in on a little secret my mother learned that made her happy and kept the family happy: the house does not need to perfect. As my Uncle Olaf used to say I'd you want to see me come visit anytime, if you want to see my house make an appointment.

Considering I work 12 hour days and she is free from 7:30 - 4:00 pm, she has plenty of time for her chores. She just has poor time management skills.


I know - this is so old. At some point people will clue in that just like men women can have all kinds of personalities, all kinds of struggles, all kinds of strengths and weaknesses, can make mistakes, be negative, take responsibility - all independent of men. they can be sticks in the mud, or party animals, they can be rays of sunshine or dark clouds of doom. So many on here still define women by the actions of men - if a woman is anything positive or good - she did it despite men, if she is anything less than perfect - the problem is a man. As a woman I absolutely hate this attitude towards women (and men). It is pretty much mysogyny and misandry all rolled into one. It presents women as being weak and incapable of being anything but who men make them to be, and men as the doer of all wrong.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 22:53     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Assuming she stays at home with a school aged child, I doubt the problem is OP not doing enough chores. That should be taken care of by the SAH parent. I can understand helping more when there are small kids at home all day, but one older child is easy.
Anonymous
Post 12/28/2013 22:45     Subject: My DW is Boring...
Anonymous wrote:At least she works out , is she hot


Rather be married to someone interesting than a skinny bitch.