OP, here is my 2 cents…

When I am having a friend over who has food restrictions, I cater to those needs. The whole meal wouldn't be vegan, but enough of it would to satisfy.

But if I'm hosting a larger dinner, with many other people at the table, I want to make a really great meal that everyone will love. So then the one vegan (or other person with restrictions) becomes kind of harder to manage. So in this situation, if my vegan friend is someone who I feel comfortable and casual with, I have no problem asking them to bring something to cover their own food needs. "Hey Susan, the menu I have planned so far is lacking in vegan options, would you be able to help me out with that part of the meal?"

(please do not put margarine on everyone's sweet potatoes. butter on the side is fine.)

Anonymous wrote:A good friend and her family come to my house a few times a year for dinner, generally Christmas and New Years. Her family eats everything, but she doesn't eat any meat, fish or eggs. She doesn't eat any dairy, including butter. We are carnivores and eat everything. I always try to make something for her, but it's though. For example, I just realized that the salad I'm making right now has Parmesan cheese and the sweet potatoes have butter. I realize I can take her portion out before adding these ingredients. Here is my question. When she asks what she can bring, is it acceptable for me to ask her to bring something she can eat?

I know you solved your problem, but I'm going with a "no" on your original question. You want to host people, you ask them if they have any food requirements and then you work with that. There are lots of ways to serve dinner that allow for people to get an entirely balanced vegan meal and also to have dishes for omnivores available.

Anonymous wrote:Hey op vegan does not equal picky.

Neither here nor there, but I think vegan is a subcategory of picky, along with all the other food issues people make up that aren't actually medical in nature.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - PROBLEM SOLVED. Friend just invited us to her house and doesn't know how to prepare the foods we eat (fish & meat). I suggested from now on that I'd bring a meat dish to her vegan party and she could bring a vegan dish to my carnivore party.

You don't eat vegetables, grains, fruits, nuts, legumes at all? Is there a moral reason for this? I don't think that "carnivore" is a healthy lifestyle.

Signed,

An omnivore who happily eats vegan food in vegan households.

lol seriously! I eat meat but can have a vegetarian meal a couple of times a week.

Hey op vegan does not equal picky.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - PROBLEM SOLVED. Friend just invited us to her house and doesn't know how to prepare the foods we eat (fish & meat). I suggested from now on that I'd bring a meat dish to her vegan party and she could bring a vegan dish to my carnivore party.

You don't eat vegetables, grains, fruits, nuts, legumes at all? Is there a moral reason for this? I don't think that "carnivore" is a healthy lifestyle.

Signed,

An omnivore who happily eats vegan food in vegan households.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - PROBLEM SOLVED. Friend just invited us to her house and doesn't know how to prepare the foods we eat (fish & meat). I suggested from now on that I'd bring a meat dish to her vegan party and she could bring a vegan dish to my carnivore party.

Sure but you're an idiot.

OP here - PROBLEM SOLVED. Friend just invited us to her house and doesn't know how to prepare the foods we eat (fish & meat). I suggested from now on that I'd bring a meat dish to her vegan party and she could bring a vegan dish to my carnivore party.

When she accepts the invitation, tell her that you would welcome suggestions for foods or courses that she likes to expand your repertoire. For the salad, when I make something like that, I will leave the cheese off and put a dish of parmesan with a spoon next to the serving dish and inform my guests that they can feel free to add it themselves. If I am doing plated meals, then I just add that at the end to everyone else's portion but the one guest who cannot eat it. I have hosted a number of people with dietary restrictions and taking an ingredient out and adding it at the end to all but one or two portions works fine for many recipes.