Anonymous
12/28/2013 09:10
Subject: Office party
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Very juvenile. I had someone who was once my closest friend in the neighborhood not invite my child to a bday party. We drifted apart this year and then she invited all of the other neighborhood kids but mine, even though are daughters used to play together and got along well. Fortunately, my daughter is small enough that I was able to shield her from finding out AND we went to a huge kids party that day. Tacky as it was, I'm fortunate to know her true character. Anyone who is callous enough to shun a kid is not someone I want to be around in any capacity.
Not at all similar circumstances.
+1
Anonymous
12/28/2013 04:28
Subject: Office party
Anonymous wrote:Sure, it's juvenile, etc. But someone needs to say it: OP should realize this person doesn't like her. The OP probably rubs people wrong or is otherwise unpleasant.
Every time I have a BBQ or other get together, I'm tempted not to invite a particular person from my team at work (while inviting the other four people). I just don't like her very much - she's snobby, gossipy, etc. I don't think my feelings have to do with bullying at all.
Usually I just don't invite people on my team at all, to avoid the awkwardness, even though I consider the others to be my friends.
But I agree you can't invite 19 of 20 people in an office.
First of all, inviting 4/5 people would be rude, although not nearly as obnoxious as inviting 19/20. Your dislike of this woman is not bullying, but continuously inviting everyone but her to an event you host would be bullying. Also, let's consider that the host is likely not BFF with every one of those 19 people. If your team is six (you + woman + other four) and your office is 25, and you invited the whole office to an event, the obnoxious woman's behavior would be lost in the crowd, no?
Anonymous
12/28/2013 02:25
Subject: Office party
I'm confused about the point of the original question. Is the person having the party someone superior to OP that she should be worried doesn't like her? Is she worried about potential career ramifications? Or just wondering if she's correct to be offended?
Anonymous
12/27/2013 15:46
Subject: Office party
OP, theres gotta be more to this story. Pretty mean to invite everyone from an office minus one.
Anonymous
12/26/2013 13:10
Subject: Office party
Sure, it's juvenile, etc. But someone needs to say it: OP should realize this person doesn't like her. The OP probably rubs people wrong or is otherwise unpleasant.
Every time I have a BBQ or other get together, I'm tempted not to invite a particular person from my team at work (while inviting the other four people). I just don't like her very much - she's snobby, gossipy, etc. I don't think my feelings have to do with bullying at all.
Usually I just don't invite people on my team at all, to avoid the awkwardness, even though I consider the others to be my friends.
But I agree you can't invite 19 of 20 people in an office.
Every time I have a BBQ or other get together, I'm tempted not to invite a particular person from my team at work (while inviting the other four people). I just don't like her very much - she's snobby, gossipy, etc. I don't think my feelings have to do with bullying at all.
Usually I just don't invite people on my team at all, to avoid the awkwardness, even though I consider the others to be my friends.
But I agree you can't invite 19 of 20 people in an office.
Anonymous
12/26/2013 13:04
Subject: Office party
How in the hell can your boss tell you that you can't go to someone else's home?
Anonymous
12/26/2013 07:59
Subject: Office party
This happened to me about five years ago at the office. Numerous people told the woman it was a loser move and she ended up telling me it was an innocent mistake that had happened to several colleagues. (It did not). The inside story was that she did not want any babies at her party. Why she did not think I would just understand that, who knows?
Anonymous
12/26/2013 07:48
Subject: Office party
This is problematic, as if intentional, can tear a team apart. I was having a party recently, and realized quickly that if I invite anyone from the office, I have to invite 30-60 people, many of who would come. The problem was I can not afford dinner for 60 people (would be about $1,800). My solution was to invite none, but we had "birthday" lunch (I turned 50, a colleague turned 60)...So no one felt excluded (I hope). I was upfront that I kept the home birthday party to families and a few really close friends. (people I have been friends with for 30+ years).
Anonymous
12/26/2013 07:38
Subject: Office party
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Bullying and obnoxious as hell.
Why is it bullying?
Excluding someone is a bullying tactic. In school, it looks like this "No, you can't sit here. I'm saving i. No losers allowed." It can be outward as in the example I just gave, or subtle as in inviting everyone in the class (or this case office) except for one.
Anonymous
12/26/2013 07:31
Subject: Office party
Anonymous wrote:Very juvenile. I had someone who was once my closest friend in the neighborhood not invite my child to a bday party. We drifted apart this year and then she invited all of the other neighborhood kids but mine, even though are daughters used to play together and got along well. Fortunately, my daughter is small enough that I was able to shield her from finding out AND we went to a huge kids party that day. Tacky as it was, I'm fortunate to know her true character. Anyone who is callous enough to shun a kid is not someone I want to be around in any capacity.
Not at all similar circumstances.
Anonymous
12/25/2013 15:36
Subject: Office party
Very juvenile. I had someone who was once my closest friend in the neighborhood not invite my child to a bday party. We drifted apart this year and then she invited all of the other neighborhood kids but mine, even though are daughters used to play together and got along well. Fortunately, my daughter is small enough that I was able to shield her from finding out AND we went to a huge kids party that day. Tacky as it was, I'm fortunate to know her true character. Anyone who is callous enough to shun a kid is not someone I want to be around in any capacity.
Anonymous
12/24/2013 23:42
Subject: Office party
Anonymous wrote:Bullying and obnoxious as hell.
Why is it bullying?
Anonymous
12/24/2013 23:40
Subject: Office party
Bullying and obnoxious as hell.
Anonymous
12/24/2013 22:44
Subject: Office party
Anonymous wrote:OP it was not an oversight.
Is this OP?