Anonymous wrote:I married for love. My husband is a social worker and I earn more than he does (not by a huge amount-just a little under $20k more per year). I won't lie and say that money has never been an issue and that there haven't been times that I haven't thought about what it would have been like if I would have married someone with money but he's my best friend. I love him and I'd rather be with him than a wealthy or even upper middle class guy that I don't love or love as much. He's handsome, fun and a really good guy who loves to cook and does more than his share around the house. We have great conversations and have a good sex life even after being together over 15 years. Yeah, it would be great if we had money but I'm happy and wouldn't trade my marriage for one where's there's money but not a lot of love or friendship.

This is so very sweet!

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Anonymous wrote:I married for love, meeting my DH when we were in college. He ended up making a ton of money. I ended up going IPO. I have love and money both his money and mine. I'm rich in love and rich in cash.


Luckily I never had, nor never will have to whore myself out.

What did he do to get rich? How about you?

Both of us are in IT sales. However I took a risk on an emerging technology and it has panned out. He has always sold brand names, I've always chased the small guys hoping for a big payday. It finally worked. I was alway behind him in income by a few 100k/yr now in one pop I've soared past him.

I dropped out of college...too much party. However my social skills have done me well in sales. Knowing how to sell isn't taught in school anyway.

But if course in real life it is not so black and white, and money is only one factor in considering whether to marry someone or not.

As for me, I married DH because he was different and highly intelligent - I knew I would never be bored with him! I also knew he would never earn much, being a research scientist. It came as a surprise to me after the wedding that his investments had worked out so well, and continue to do well. We were able to buy a house and live beyond the means of his salary alone.

The downside is that I found being "different" meant being gifted yet also having Asperger's/ADHD, which my son now has. This has been occasionally very difficult on our marriage, and we struggle to educate our son correctly.

I have no judgement for those who chose to marry for money primarily - they may grow into love. My BIL had an arranged marriage and those too can work out well.

This thread is sad.

Agree with the prostitute designation.

Anonymous wrote:I married for love, meeting my DH when we were in college. He ended up making a ton of money. I ended up going IPO. I have love and money both his money and mine. I'm rich in love and rich in cash.


Luckily I never had, nor never will have to whore myself out.

What did he do to get rich? How about you?

Marrying for love only doesn't pay the bills. I don't need a millionaire but I refuse to marry a man that isn't financially stable. I don't think that's too much to ask.

I married for love. My husband is a social worker and I earn more than he does (not by a huge amount-just a little under $20k more per year). I won't lie and say that money has never been an issue and that there haven't been times that I haven't thought about what it would have been like if I would have married someone with money but he's my best friend. I love him and I'd rather be with him than a wealthy or even upper middle class guy that I don't love or love as much. He's handsome, fun and a really good guy who loves to cook and does more than his share around the house. We have great conversations and have a good sex life even after being together over 15 years. Yeah, it would be great if we had money but I'm happy and wouldn't trade my marriage for one where's there's money but not a lot of love or friendship.

I thought I was marrying for money, but my husband went the academic route in medicine. Turns out I became the rainmaker and now out-earn 5 to 1. Sometimes life doesn't work out as expected. We are happy.

I married for love, meeting my DH when we were in college. He ended up making a ton of money. I ended up going IPO. I have love and money both his money and mine. I'm rich in love and rich in cash.


Luckily I never had, nor never will have to whore myself out.

Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

Current/future SAHM?

I married in part for social class. DH has excellent manners, grammar, great education and his family and friends are all the same. We are legacy at private schools and a club and I prefer this to someone who is strictly lower/middle class. We still struggle with money, however.

Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

Hope you don't reproduce, for the sake of the country, including your nitwit girlfriends.

I married when he had no money. Both of us managed with very little. We have enough now, but those were truly the best years of our lives. We didn't have money and we didn't care. We both were educated, he had a new job and we knew that eventually we would be ok.

Anonymous wrote:You marry for money you are nothing but a prostitute.

I completely agree with this and have a hard time understanding the other side.

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Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I need a bath after reading this.

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