OP, I'm sorry things played out this way. There is life after your first law firm. You would be surprised (but maybe not) how many people lose their first law firm job. This town is filled with major success stories who went to another firm, when to the government, went elsewhere after being burned by a law firm.

As for your husband, he was a cheating, lying schmuck. Time to get angry.

Also time to grow up, no? Life can't be a pinata.

Anonymous wrote:So what if she is a "good girl" who followed all the rules. Have a little compassion and understanding of human suffering.

Wow, OP, I am so sorry to hear about your lay off and even worse your cheating husband. I got laid off as well and my relative has serious cancer so I understand some of your pain. It sounds like you don't have children with this Neanderthal man. Thank goodness for that. I'm sure you will land on your feet. Sending good wishes your way. (Ignore the jealous haters)

its good that she is a good girl and all that. but one gets the impression that she felt entitled to everything going her way forever. like, this was not supposed to happen to her, but some commoners out there. and she is of age where most people are over such illusions.

Very sorry to hear that, OP.

Life is messy and unpredictable and as others have said, this is something you WILL bounce back from. It's a dark time right now but mark this date on your calendar one year out and imagine how much will have changed by then - some of it, certainly, will change for the best.

" the jealous haters"

this non-explicit forum seems to be full of them.

Anonymous wrote:So what if she is a "good girl" who followed all the rules. Have a little compassion and understanding of human suffering.

Wow, OP, I am so sorry to hear about your lay off and even worse your cheating husband. I got laid off as well and my relative has serious cancer so I understand some of your pain. It sounds like you don't have children with this Neanderthal man. Thank goodness for that. I'm sure you will land on your feet. Sending good wishes your way. (Ignore the jealous haters)

Oh, I do have some compassion - sucks to have life blow up. But I also don't think she's well served with a lot of "oh woe is me" - it always takes two to tango and she will be best served not worrying about what dick moves he pulled and paying attention to the part she can control - what part she played in arriving where she is.

Not trying to be unduly harsh, as another poster mentioned, it doesn't sound like kids are involved, so she can make a clean break from this guy, start over with her career and her romantic life, and make sure to examine what mistakes she made.

OP - I've made plenty of my own..welcome to being just another human being - and take some solace in that: we are all just human beings, with some dirt under our nails and fuck-ups in our past. Don't be fooled by the illusion of the mail-order fairy tale. My ire is directed at the fairy tail not you.

Anonymous wrote:So what if she is a "good girl" who followed all the rules. Have a little compassion and understanding of human suffering.

Wow, OP, I am so sorry to hear about your lay off and even worse your cheating husband. I got laid off as well and my relative has serious cancer so I understand some of your pain. It sounds like you don't have children with this Neanderthal man. Thank goodness for that. I'm sure you will land on your feet. Sending good wishes your way. (Ignore the jealous haters)

+1

So what if she is a "good girl" who followed all the rules. Have a little compassion and understanding of human suffering.

Wow, OP, I am so sorry to hear about your lay off and even worse your cheating husband. I got laid off as well and my relative has serious cancer so I understand some of your pain. It sounds like you don't have children with this Neanderthal man. Thank goodness for that. I'm sure you will land on your feet. Sending good wishes your way. (Ignore the jealous haters)

Anonymous wrote:So shocked at what my life has become. I was always considered good-looking and smart, came from an affluent family, went to a top women's college and then an Ivy League law school, met the perfect man there - hot, smart, also from an affluent family, totally great to me. We get jobs at firms in the same city, we're in love, we get married, everything is going great. Then this year, I lose my job because I haven't been billing enough hours and bringing in clients, and also find out that he's been cheating on me for 2 years, he claims he doesn't love me at all, and we're on the brink of divorce.

I am just not sure what is happening. My life wasn't supposed to go like this.

You have your looks, a career, young, momsie dadsie and ex can support you until you get another job. So...

OP I have several friends who were married before or right around 30 in fairy tale weddings to somewhat fairy tale men and who got divorced. All of them bounced back and married wonderful men and have babies now. Hang in there. Things will get better.

Sure, we all have those moments, but the OP listed a series of superficial checklist items that have very little to do with liking the person she chose to marry.

She sounds like a classic "good girl" "rule follower" who has been punching her ticket and expecting the mail-order life to arrive and make her happy. Really shallow and really disconnected from reality.