Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 12:56     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
OP - DCUM is not the right forum for you. Listen to your gut and act accordingly. But please, don't pay attention to many of the posters here. Your sons behavior / response speaks volumes. This is about him, not your "melodrama".
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 12:53     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:Your son woke up his dad too early and got fussed at. Am I missing something?


Yep. You're missing pretty much everything. Hard to see clearly with your head so far up your asshole.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 12:13     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:Its a shame she is teaching the kids to be so entitled. Teaching them they that have to respect their father and be reasonable in their demands is key to creating a reasonable adult.

Would it have been the end of the world if dad helped tie the tie at 730AM?


My kids get up earlier than they have to sometimes too and they know they are on their own until I get up at the normal time (7:00).



Sounds like this was a special once in a while kind of thing like Christmas. Get up, help your kid, and go back to bed. Would he rather the reason he's woken up early be that his kid had to go to the ER?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 12:10     Subject: Re:My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
My husband did not take a 100% active roll in the kid's lives until they became Jr. high age. I did it all before that time because my husband was busy making money and being forced to volunteer for his damn company.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 12:10     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
My DH didn't even come to our DC's winter performance, even though he had the day off work.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 12:04     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Its a shame she is teaching the kids to be so entitled. Teaching them they that have to respect their father and be reasonable in their demands is key to creating a reasonable adult.

Would it have been the end of the world if dad helped tie the tie at 730AM?


My kids get up earlier than they have to sometimes too and they know they are on their own until I get up at the normal time (7:00).

Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 11:58     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:OP, from your title I opened this thread expecting it to be about some divorced mom whose husband has stood up the children yet again, or took him out with his girlfriends kid and bought them a candy bar while buying an Xbox One for the girlfriend's kids, or cheated at home with the kids home and asked them to lie for him when mom got back.

Not tying a necktie at 6:30 AM? I think you need to quit being so over dramatic.


+1. This is what I was expecting. Or maybe a still-married mom whose dad leaves at 6am, comes in at 10pm, and has ignored repeated requests for date night/time with the kids.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 11:31     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:OP, 2 kids and a heavily pregnant wife does not really incite Mary Poppins or Maria Von Trapp in most people (I don't know the equivalent for men).


Bert.

Bert: You know, begging your pardon, but the one my heart goes out to is your father. There he is in that cold, heartless bank day after day, hemmed in by mounds of cold, heartless money. I don't like to see any living thing caged up.
Jane: Father? In a cage?
Bert: They makes cages in all sizes and shapes, you know. Bank-shaped, some of 'em, carpets and all.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 11:22     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Pregnancy Hormones prompted you to write this post.
you get a pass -- by vewwwyyy slim margin!
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 11:19     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
OP, 2 kids and a heavily pregnant wife does not really incite Mary Poppins or Maria Von Trapp in most people (I don't know the equivalent for men).
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 11:09     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
What is the definition of a great dad?
I bet there are many aspects and elements that factor into everyone's individual account, from their own experiences with their own fathers to their observations and perceptions of other fathers both real and portrayed in the media.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 11:03     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
You son is SEVEN teach him to read the clock and teach him to RESPECT his dad and not wake him up at 6:30.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 10:56     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
OP, from your title I opened this thread expecting it to be about some divorced mom whose husband has stood up the children yet again, or took him out with his girlfriends kid and bought them a candy bar while buying an Xbox One for the girlfriend's kids, or cheated at home with the kids home and asked them to lie for him when mom got back.

Not tying a necktie at 6:30 AM? I think you need to quit being so over dramatic.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 10:53     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:you sound histrionic and melodramatic, OP.

6:30 IS too goddamned early.


Agreed. OP, have you talked about your feelings with a therapist? Also, were you an only-child?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 10:42     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Do you enjoy playing the victim OP?