Anonymous wrote:My husband is the same way. I don't mind because he works a lot and honestly, on his time off, I would rather him spend it with our family doing something fun. As long as the job gets done, I don't care who does it....as long as it is not me.

Wouldn't you care if you worked a full time job outside the house?

It irks me so much that I complain incessantly about it and also sleep around. Seriously.

My husband is 8 inches taller than me and outweighs me by 50 pounds. We both have fulltime jobs. Damned if I'm going to let him be "tired" when there's a lightbulb out! I'm not hauling a 30 pound ladder up from the basement (when he could use the bathroom stepstool or even just stand on his tippy toes) to prove how independent I am.

Anonymous wrote:My husband can't even change a light bulb, shovel snow, move furniture He says just to hire a handyman. We can afford it but to me everyone in the house should do domestic work and I still think about money spent for easy chores. My kids are to young and moving the patio furniture is hard. Yes he works long hours but weekends easy jobs should be easy to do.

Classic example of a woman complaining just for the sake of complaining.
The light bulbs are getting changed and the snow is getting shoveled - granted at the expense of a handyman - but the shit gets done.
So what is she complaining about if the shit gets done?
Exactly...
She's complaining because she wants shit done HER way.
Typical.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you do auto mechanics?
Assuming that your husband loves you and all, leave the poor guy alone.

She's talking about changing a lightbulb, shoveling snow, moving furniture...these are not tasks requiring any degree of skill. Yes she could do it all herself but why should she have to? Her H sounds as lazy as sin.

+1

When I clicked on this I assumed she meant he won't do "woman's work" like cook, change diapers, fold the kids' laundry, etc. I can't believe she's talking about moving furniture. Yikes. I think I'd cringe if my DH couldn't do simple tasks. you could always embarrass him by calling your father to come and accomplish these things (if you think he would even be embarrassed.)

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you do auto mechanics?
Assuming that your husband loves you and all, leave the poor guy alone.

She's talking about changing a lightbulb, shoveling snow, moving furniture...these are not tasks requiring any degree of skill. Yes she could do it all herself but why should she have to? Her H sounds as lazy as sin.

God yes that would bother me. My H works insane hours too (finance) but is still very handy around the house. A guy who won't even change a lightbulb? That is weird. It's nit like it's hard to do.

One of the things I truly love and value about my husband is that he's not afraid to get his hands dirty. He prefers to do things himself. What he doesn't already know, he learns.

But that said, I lived alone, owned my own house for many years, and I did stuff myself, too. I installed flooring. I did some repairs. I put in fencing.

I had an ex-boyfriend who was lazy, and it bothered me.

I do get frustrated at times. He grew up in a country where labor is cheap. I grew up poor doing it all myself. I'm the one who does house repairs 99% of the time because I don't want to spend the money. He'd hire everything out if he could. I wish he'd change a lightbulb of he saw it out. Without my having to ask him. That's probably what frustrates me the most. If something is obvious, fix it.

Hey OP just outta curiosity, do you measure up all of your husbands expectations?
I'm sure you don't so what does he do?
Does he nag you about your deficiencies or does he keep it to himself?
If he nags you then maybe you should work on improving those things he has issue with instead of just nagging back.
If he keeps it to himself maybe you should take note and do the same.

I'm mostly the same way. It's a time and money thing. We can afford to have a handyman do it, and I get to spend more time with family.

Last time we had a handyman come for 3 hours and he accomplished what would have taken me a full day to do.

Anonymous wrote:It's ok if one person brings home all the bacon, and the other one does the house and children. That's why it's good to have two parents.

No?

Shoot--posted early. If he really does nothing around the house at all, that's one thing. But if it's just that you think he should be doing all the "man" jobs and he disagrees, then do them yourdamnself. You are perfectly capable of changing a lightbulb.

How old are the children?

Are you home with the kids? If so, why are you waiting for him to change lightbulbs and shovel the driveway? If you need help moving something, ask him to help you. OThersie