The fact you went to a lawyer about this says a lot about your approach. She might be worried you will call CPS next and try and have your lawyer have her son removed because you think they aren't good parents/people.

You sounds like you come across very obnoxiously and you definitely feel superior to your sister. I am sure even if you haven't said that explicitly that she sense your judgment and disapproval.

Noticing the dogs teeth and offering to pay are good things to do, however it is all about how you offer and how you speak of it. You can hide behind the stand up for good, but there are many ways to stand up for good and some lead to far better outcomes than others.

I would say think about how you come across to others, how would your sister describe you and how you spoke to her?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I stood up for a small, defenseless animal. I don't feel bad for a second. If I had told you that a week before this happened she had tried to surrender the dog (who is 13 and has lived with her it's entire life) to the county animal shelter, what would you think then?
You pretend to know me and how Iove my life from a post on an anonymous forum. You don't know a thing about me.

I have no clue how you live but I do know that no person is going to allow you access to their child with that kind of attitude. You don't Ned to feel bad you have to understand that, for as long as you want to spend time with your nephew, you are simply not in a position regarding your sister in which you can behave in such manner.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I stood up for a small, defenseless animal. I don't feel bad for a second. If I had told you that a week before this happened she had tried to surrender the dog (who is 13 and has lived with her it's entire life) to the county animal shelter, what would you think then?
You pretend to know me and how Iove my life from a post on an anonymous forum. You don't know a thing about me.

* I live

OP here. I stood up for a small, defenseless animal. I don't feel bad for a second. If I had told you that a week before this happened she had tried to surrender the dog (who is 13 and has lived with her it's entire life) to the county animal shelter, what would you think then?
You pretend to know me and how Iove my life from a post on an anonymous forum. You don't know a thing about me.

Anonymous wrote:Decide whether you care more about the dog or the nephew. If it is the nephew then you have to let the dog thing go and apologize for it. Your attitude of "I don't want anything to do with a person who does this to an animal yada yada" is plainly incompatible with your desire to spend time with your nephew.

+1. Dog or nephew? Time to choose.

Wow, OP, you are a piece if work. If I were your foster, I'd keep you as far away from my family as possible, always. Unbelieveable on so many levels!

Anonymous wrote:They have no money and you were getting on them about paying for a dog's teeth cleaning?

You do realize the vast majority of dogs never get Their teeth professionally cleaned?

Back off.

When teeth are rotting, it is beyond a simple tooth cleaning. If the dog is in pain, it involves his nerves. That means the teeth have to be pulled. Sounds pretty painful to me.

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps OP mentioned him being enlisted because most enlisted military don't earn a lot of money.

She had already made several points about them being poor and financial stupid.

Perhaps OP mentioned him being enlisted because most enlisted military don't earn a lot of money.

They have no money and you were getting on them about paying for a dog's teeth cleaning?

You do realize the vast majority of dogs never get Their teeth professionally cleaned?

Back off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so OP is trying to get her relationship with her sister back on track. But in the meantime, the dog suffers? And you know it will suffer with rotten gums.

Yes, but it's not her dog. And there are millions of dogs with rotting teeth.
If OP feels that she must fix dogs teeth, she can start at a local shelter and not insult her sister.

+1

Some military bases have get services. I have to agree with the enlisted comments. My husband was enlisted and did very well for himself.

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so OP is trying to get her relationship with her sister back on track. But in the meantime, the dog suffers? And you know it will suffer with rotten gums.

It's her sisters dog. OP needs to learn some boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:Okay, so OP is trying to get her relationship with her sister back on track. But in the meantime, the dog suffers? And you know it will suffer with rotten gums.

Yes, but it's not her dog. And there are millions of dogs with rotting teeth.
If OP feels that she must fix dogs teeth, she can start at a local shelter and not insult her sister.

Okay, so OP is trying to get her relationship with her sister back on track. But in the meantime, the dog suffers? And you know it will suffer with rotten gums.