Anonymous
12/10/2013 16:03
Subject: Re:Christmas and son's girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She didn't spend Thanksgiving here and won't be here for Christmas. She goes to her family. She knows we barely have enough money to provide gifts for our three younger children, so trying to provide gifts for her and my older son is a stretch. I am on disability with limited income. We will hang a stocking for her and provide gifts one way or another.
For the lovely people who made the comments 8:37 and 8:43, thank you for you less than pleasant comments. I'm sorry if I seemed inconsiderate to you for even asking the question. I was thrown into this situation without knowing at first, so I'm still figuring things out. It is Christmas, so try to be a little more considerate in your response. Cursing is uncalled for.
It isn't the money, but the thought. Like someone posted, a dollar store stocking and a few other items from the dollar store that are geared around what you know about her will go a long way to make her feel included. She already knows that money is tight so she shouldn't be expecting a lot. But things like socks if you know that she likes to wear them on cold floors or snacks that she enjoys or something else small that she would appreciate will make her feel included. And you can get these things at the dollar store so that you spend what you can afford. Do the same for your oldest son. They are old enough to understand the realities that there isn't a lot of money to spend, but also need to be included to know that they are a valued part of the family. And yes, as long as she is dating your son and living under your roof she is a part of your family.
+1,000. It is just the fact that you are including her. Something thoughtful is the best. The wedding gifts that I remember the most were the gifts of time. The friend who did my hair and make-up. The relative who drove us to the wedding in his beautiful antique car. The people who put up the tent so we didn't have to spend a small fortune renting one. The person who picked up our flowers and arranged them on the tables.
In her Christmas stocking, you could put notes with things that you could do for her that wouldn't cost anything/little if you have the time (wash her car, clean her car are two things that come to mind). Make her favorite cookies and put them in the stocking. Look on craigslist- maybe she needs a space heater normally $30 that you can buy for $10 etc.
Anonymous
12/10/2013 15:34
Subject: Re:Christmas and son's girlfriend
Anonymous wrote:She didn't spend Thanksgiving here and won't be here for Christmas. She goes to her family. She knows we barely have enough money to provide gifts for our three younger children, so trying to provide gifts for her and my older son is a stretch. I am on disability with limited income. We will hang a stocking for her and provide gifts one way or another.
For the lovely people who made the comments 8:37 and 8:43, thank you for you less than pleasant comments. I'm sorry if I seemed inconsiderate to you for even asking the question. I was thrown into this situation without knowing at first, so I'm still figuring things out. It is Christmas, so try to be a little more considerate in your response. Cursing is uncalled for.
It isn't the money, but the thought. Like someone posted, a dollar store stocking and a few other items from the dollar store that are geared around what you know about her will go a long way to make her feel included. She already knows that money is tight so she shouldn't be expecting a lot. But things like socks if you know that she likes to wear them on cold floors or snacks that she enjoys or something else small that she would appreciate will make her feel included. And you can get these things at the dollar store so that you spend what you can afford. Do the same for your oldest son. They are old enough to understand the realities that there isn't a lot of money to spend, but also need to be included to know that they are a valued part of the family. And yes, as long as she is dating your son and living under your roof she is a part of your family.
Anonymous
12/10/2013 13:54
Subject: Christmas and son's girlfriend
That's very thoughtful of you, OP. Merry Christmas!